Login | Register

Confessions: 7 reasons why Thai girls cheat

Most men cheat for physical reasons and when for emotional ones, though why is it exactly that makes Thai girls cheat on their boyfriends and husbands. For Thai girls it's not your normal reasons for the most part but some are, Thai girls are not only jealous but it's also more likely that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you than a western woman would, the reasons why Thai girls cheat might even surprise you. The good news is there are many ways to ensure that your Thai girl won't cheat on you.

I've learned there are many reasons why Thai girls cheat on you, from being bored, to you being bored in bed, to baffling reasons like she just wanted to try it. Read on for the truth behind reasons why Thai girls cheat.

List of reasons why Thai girls cheat

Reason #1: There is no fire or passion

"Su" had been dating this guy Brendan from Canada for about 2 years now, everything on the outside looked great both working, living in a nice house, good friends. But the reality was their relationship was OK except they just didn't have a spark anymore, Brendan lately had been getting massages for relief and at the expense of his wife who wasn't getting any. So when some guy from Australia approached her at the gym, she felt excitement like she hadn't felt for years, next thing leads to the next, and before you know it Su is pairing up with this Aussie 3 times a week. She didn't feel bad about Brendan because he was getting his own. Don't forget about your main girl if you are messing around, you need to make sure she is satisfied or you run the risk of her finding it elsewhere.

Reason #2: Delaying the inevitable breakup

Sometimes a Thai girl might not be that into you, she may be everything to you but if it's not reciprocal then it's just not going to work out. Thai girls though won't come out and tell you this, unless they are financially stable they are more likely to go find another sugar daddy while still with you, once the other daddy relationship is fully established you'll come home one day to find her gone. How do you know she is dating someone else will vary depending on how you guys live your lives, though if you do find out, best thing to do is help her find the other guy or you'll be stuck with her.

Reason #3: You don't live in Thailand

A mate of mine lives in California for 11 months of the year and for 1 month of the year here's in Thailand, he's had a girlfriend here for the past 7 years. Being away for 11 months of the year is a strain on the relationship, while he had been faithful, his girlfriend had not, in fact she had several other boyfriends that also only came to Thailand once a year for a month. This had gone on for 5 years without him knowing about it, and how could he know about it he wasn't even in Thailand! My mate was sending his Thai girl money every month so he could support her, even though this took great strain on his finances. Bottom line is if you meet a Thai girl in a bar and expect her to be faithful when you aren't around then the only person who is going to eat dirt is you!

Reason #4: No sense of commitment

Thai girls mostly want to date foreigners because of the stability, and if there is no stability then she is going to look elsewhere. Why do you think so many Thai guys are able to have more than one girlfriend at a time and it seems the girls turn a blind eye to it? It's because the Thai girl knows she has stability with the guy, the guy is always going to be there for her where no one else is. If she knows your not going to get rid of her then she'll be ok about you having a second girlfriend. But, if it's very new in the relationship and she doesn't think your going to take care of her for the rest of her life then you have a 90% chance that she is going to cheat on you, she is more likely to do this in the beginning of your relationship so make sure you keep reiterating to her that you intend to stick around.

Reason #5: You treat her too badly

Let's face it, Thai girls are a real handful they can be whiny, annoying, threatening, ungrateful and unfaithful. But if you beat her down she will resent you, you call her fat, and stupid all the time, she just isn't going to like you anymore and won't think your fun either, think about it would you want to be with that person too? The worse you treat your Thai girl the more likely it is that she is going to cheat on you, some french guy she meets at 7 eleven offers her to go to his room and is really nice to her, she's going to think about the last time you hit her and probably go.

Reason #6: She is really really bored

James is a 40 year old teacher that lives in Thailand. He goes to teach 6 days a week for about 10 hours a day, the schedule is quite grueling but because he works for one of the top high schools in the country he enjoys a very healthy salary in the 6 figure mark. His 21 year old girlfriend doesn't go to college doesn't work and basically sits at home all day watching TV soaps, she has no interest nor motivation to go to the gym, go back to school,or join any sort of club.
Bored girls will cheat on you

So basically she has so much time on her hands that she's just bored, last year i saw her one day at a coffee shop in town. She was sitting with an American I thought was a friend of James, when i asked James about it he had no idea, turns out that she was not only seeing this guy but other guys as well, her excuse, she was just really bored and James was never around. If you intend on keeping a Thai girl and not motivating her to join extra curricular activities that don't involve meeting other Farangs then she is going to cheat on her. Why make it so easy for her anyway, think about how hard you had to work when you were 21 was it so bad on you that you don't want her to do it?

Reason #7: To give him a taste of his own medicine

Are you slutting around the beer bars picking up girls all the time, do you think she doesn't know where your going when you say your just going to the bar with a few mates, no, she knows exactly what your getting up to it, and even if you aren't she's thinking about it. You live in Thailand and to all Thais your just a typical non-faithful westerner who goes around with dark skinned bar girls. If she thinks this is what your doing then be assured she's also thinking about it too. Thai girls believe they are equal in this respect and due to Thai culture if your sleeping around then so can she. Keep your activities quiet, join a gym instead of going to the pub and keep your "gig" (F Buddy) a secret and she is less likely to cheat on you.


More Thailand Info:



About Chris

Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. In 2017 he stopped writing new content (although does update the site) and is now focused on writing for his new website SlyNomad.com.

39 Responses to Confessions: 7 reasons why Thai girls cheat

  1. Pearl December 14, 2011 at 3:56 am #

    Oh, by the way, women cheat when men start ignoring and or cheating us! This dishonesty is universal and not acted by us thai women alone. Do you know the golden law? Do not do unto others what you don’t want others do to you.

    • blobabo January 21, 2014 at 9:22 am #

      Sorry but that’s bullshit, I had a thai girlfriend for 4 years, was always there online to talk / listen to her,visited her twice a year for a mont or two at a time, sent her money every month, never cheated on her, never ignored her, and she still told me after 4 years it’s over “I cheated on you”

      I even met her family in the village, and she was not a bar girl or dancer…

      • Ken September 13, 2015 at 9:56 am #

        Visting a girl twice a year for a month or two and sending her money…you were not her BF ever. You were her mark. You guys need to get a reality check. If you want a GF you need to be IN THAILND IN THE CITY SHE LIVES. Don’t be fools !

        • Ronald Durante February 26, 2016 at 7:07 am #

          Well said…what idiot would send a thai woman money every month….I have a thai girlfriend and she never asked for money. And i don’t expect us to have a healthy relationship whereby i visit for 1 month a year….we working on a more fulfilling future, going back for her bday and songkran.

      • Chris July 30, 2017 at 1:11 am #

        I had a thai girlfriend for 2 years, was always there online to talk / listen to her visited her twice a year sent her money every month, never cheated on her, never ignored her, and the last time i visited she not even love me just beat me up for what reason i will never know but think it was because i not given lots of money to the family all the time ”

        I even met her family in the village twice but she was a freelancer and i thought that i might be able to help and change her way of life NO NO …No Honey no money or was it no money no honey
        Reply

    • Peter February 14, 2016 at 1:22 pm #

      Actually, Thai women are more likely to cheat than Thai men. Thai women are also the country/sex that cheat the most in the world, at 56%. Only other country I know of, where women are (almost) as likely to cheat as men is Germany, where 44% of men and 40% of women have cheated on their partner. In Europe the number for women is typically 20-35%, and for men 35-50% depending on country, with Italy, Spain and Denmark having particularly cheating men, and Spain, as unfair as it is, having the least cheating women.
      Given the oddity of the cheating stats for thais, it is safe to assume, that there are some cultural differences related to cheating.

  2. Charles February 28, 2012 at 11:29 am #

    Just be good person. Golden Rule. Pay your dues and it will all work out for the best. All you need is love, love is all you need.

    • sebhai December 7, 2012 at 6:12 pm #

      Easier than done especially in a country like thailand.

  3. nic February 9, 2013 at 11:42 pm #

    I married a thai girl.lying bitch.from ubonratchathani isaan region.worked in a optometrist shop in ubon.anyone been there?maybe you fucked her too before i met her.if you know her i would like to know just how much of a slut she was before i knew her.

    • Chris February 10, 2013 at 10:35 am #

      have you got a photo?

  4. gibteam October 6, 2013 at 11:32 am #

    I’m definitely numbers 2,3 and 4.
    Probably numbers 1,6 and 7.
    I hope not numbers 6 and especially 1.

  5. gibteam October 6, 2013 at 11:35 am #

    Definitely not number 5

  6. albert December 25, 2013 at 7:28 am #

    I take it that likely these girls are gonna cheat so why marry them? is that correct? I met a girl in Phuket pushing for marriage and 1 million baht sinsot working in a massage palor. says she will quit if I pay her 30000 baht a month and she’ll move back to Isaan, get a job in a 7-11 again. I should probably run…

    • Fidelity Check Online October 16, 2016 at 7:49 pm #

      That’s the danger you have no way of knowing if she has done as she promised or has other men sending money for exactly the same reason. How do you know she has returned to the village ?

  7. Bernie May 4, 2014 at 11:50 pm #

    I married a Thai woman 4 years ago. Although the culture differences create some challenges, we have a great life and we are very happy together. I hate when people say ” all Thai girls are bad”. When I see a bad story about a Thai/farang relationship, I generally see a common thread, they are with a bar/massage girl. A lot of girls get into working as a bar girl because of money issues, bad boyfriends, the need to take care of mom, and at first it’s a means to an end. But after they have been in the business for a while, they become jaded and addicted to the life style of partying, nice hotels/food/clothes/money. They see a new man everyday or every week and soon the embarrassment of it all seems to fade. They are used and abused and start believing they should do the same. Soon you have a jaded and suspicious person who only cares about themselves and what they can manipulate from others, and I can’t blame them. So my advice is to meet a nice Thai girl that doesn’t work in Pattaya, Phuket, or any adult entertainment area. Spend some time in Thailand and meet someone who has a regular job, is not 20 years old, and treats you good over the long haul. Use the same common sense you would use to find a girl in your own country, the same rules apply.

    • Kim Tuffin February 16, 2016 at 1:37 am #

      Good observations Bernie
      Always use common sense , even if they don’t work in the entertainment business.

    • ron March 25, 2016 at 8:23 am #

      Glad i didn’t get asian fever when i was in my 20s, i would have been a bargirl victim for sure !!!

    • John September 11, 2016 at 12:42 pm #

      Very true what you say. Exactly my experience. You forgot to mention Sideline Girls who are similar to bar girls except they have a regular job. They pick up guys from the internet introduction sites or by going out to bars, clubs etc. They make more money on weekends and evenings than from their real job. Yes they like to eat in restaurants and stay in nice hotels overnight with their pickups. Shopping for new clothes and makeup is their other hobby. Yes they become quite confident and have no shame,but become jaded and self centered. They often have a Thai BF (Gik) when they want a hunky young Thai guy for Thai-style rabbit sex. Drinking can become an addiction with some. They’re only attracted to men who spend money and are generous with gifts etc. Your money is like honey to a bee. No money – no honey! But how can you be sure you meet a nice girl ? The one you pick may look like butter would not melt in her mouth but later you find out she is a little whore or a lesbian or just focused on getting your money and not really interested in you.

      • Bob October 9, 2016 at 11:47 am #

        You sir are absolutely correct!

    • Jason April 22, 2017 at 4:01 pm #

      IME, even if you do meet a nice respectable Thai lady from somewhere other than the tourist areas as I did, if she does move to somewhere like Phuket and you’re trying to maintain a long distance relationship, chances are its doomed to fail. My g/f worked for a MNC at Suvarnabhumi and everything was fine for 3 years until she was posted to Phuket. She got involved with the new and exciting social life and the wayward attitudes of her colleagues, started drinking and partying (she never done that before) and before long she had found a new b/f. Showed absolutely no remorse or guilt about the previous 3 years we spent together or our pledge to get married one day when I could go and live there.
      The best comment I read so far? If you aint in the country with her, dont be surprised if she strays.
      And fyi, this isnt just aimed at young folks; Im 49 and she’s 50. But like most Thai women, she looks 15 years younger than her age; and like most farang, I look 10 years older.
      Seriously, if you’re not a resident of Thailand living with your girl, just don’t bother trying to make a LDR work. Statistically its not gonna happen and unless you’re one of the 0.1% couples that actually do get through it, it’ll end in heartbreak.

  8. Joseph Kenny July 8, 2014 at 3:40 pm #

    I just moved to Thailand and met a girl working in the Marketing Department at a big nightclub. I know she is dating other people. She does not know that I know though. I say all the things that she wants to hear and she says things that she thinks I want to hear. Its only sex for me though. I have already had the sob story that she has a big problem and needs help. When it becomes too much I will simply move on. Just go in with your eyes open

  9. Charlie October 10, 2014 at 10:04 pm #

    I don’t care what anyone says or thinks because sex means nothing to
    Thai girls and everyone of them will cheat on you. When I was in my
    early 20’s I was having sex with many Thai women and most were all
    married to foreigners. Some were massage girls and some were good
    girls. One was married to a Thai Policeman and a high ranking one.
    I asked her why she was fucking me and she said “because I saw you
    and I like to try”. To a Thai person sex is the same as eating lunch or
    using the toilet, it is just something that you do.

  10. Kim November 20, 2014 at 11:47 pm #

    So many Thai girls are honest and so many are not! If you have fallen for one best check her out before you get to involved!!

    • G V Nathan December 24, 2014 at 4:59 pm #

      Now either Thai/philippe girl/ladyboys they are so desperate with in 48 hours of your friendship they start demanding money, that’s also for buying groceries. It seams a big racket going on specially on online dating sites. People may argue this and that but for a foreigners it will be a very bad experience also loss of money. SO BEWARE!!!

  11. John February 14, 2015 at 10:58 am #

    Hey Charlie

    I know you commented back in October ’14
    My previous GF had a Thai cop for a while.

    Her name wasn’t Numwhan was it?
    She lived in Bang Na area but came from the Nong Khai region
    .
    and BTW she swore she was a “good girl” and she “never” cheated on anyone
    (pinch of salt)

    • Kim May 7, 2015 at 6:13 am #

      John we don’t know of a Numwhan. Looks like you have learnt a lesson, please keep warning people on blogs there are some big scammer’s out there.

  12. Ken September 13, 2015 at 10:00 am #

    Rule #1. don’t fall for a college girl of 21 if you are 50 or 60.

    Rule #2: Never date a Thai women who is not gainfully emplyoed in a steady job preferably with a large companyu

    Rule#3: Never have long distance relationships. Be no more than 1 hour away from your GF. You cannot love someone or learn about someone online…that is all BS

    Rule #4: Guys…ask yourself why a young, pretty 20 something want to be with a fat old 50 something……if you think she loves you …wrong !

    Use your head. if you are in you 50s look for a woman in her 40s and 50s….yeah…I know she won’t be hot or sexy but maybe she will actually love and cherish you !

    • ron March 25, 2016 at 8:46 am #

      Disagree with #3. After 7 months
      Of chatting everyday, all times of the day, we both learned so much about each other. By the time i got to thailand we had fallen in love.
      And of course there was the typical online bullshit from each of us, because you never really think your gonna go meet the girl. And thai girls don’t believe you will come true after years of chatting with deadend farang.
      honestly, my whole intention was to vacation and have a steady woman while i was there. But that started to change as we became an everyday part of each others lives through hours of video calls a day.

  13. ZOOM March 19, 2016 at 11:35 pm #

    why you insist to get thai girl, no girl in your own country, thai girl are all shit… if you got her only 4 years then wait and you will remember me, good luck

  14. Craig May 17, 2016 at 1:44 am #

    Jeeeez lots of you guys are soooo bitter.
    I work in Thailand, sure there are bad girls but no more so than your nearest city.
    I questioned my Thai girlfriend once about other guys, her response was to get my name tattoo’d the whole length of her upper arm, she then said “if you think I’m one of those girls then this should show you I’m not” fair play I say. It’s worth nothing it’s her first and last tattoo.
    Come on guys use your head, stop thinking with your penis. If your here once a month in 12 months chances are it’s simply not going to work.
    Also please remember that these “bar girls” are like they are because stupid farang have set a standard.
    It’s a different culture that must be respected but not underestimated.

  15. Arjjun July 12, 2016 at 1:52 am #

    It’s been 4 days since i broke up with my thai girl friend .I met her in a bar , she was coyote and first 2 days when i want to bar fine she said she don’t go customers and 3rd day i didn’t ask but she gave me a quotation of 5000 for Short time (coyote = expensive sluts? ) there i picked her because she’s one of the best looking girl i’ve seen in thailand , fucked her but she didn’t leave she stayed for a day and then went to work from my place and it continued ..soon i felt for her and really loved her that in about 2 weeks she stopped the work in bar and stayed with me with my promise i pay 40,000 a month , i paid her …she left job ..we were good…for 2 months .3rd month , i came to know she have a thai boy friend too – and you know what , he’s a police too .I asked her why she hide this from me , her reply was “i take care you everything you want then why you angry” ? i said don’t take care me but i want my girl friend have only one man .Our fighting day started ,for little things , big things , weekly , then daily…and she started demanding more money than before like make new house for mom (70,000) i paid ..i paid…but i was never happy .Every 2 weeks she will say some reason and go out of my room for like 4 days to spend with her thai boy friend .I was literally in tears . I did no wrong .

    I always believed she is different , she made me look like a crazy man in front of her friends .one day i was sleeping and she just went to meet her thai boy friend after i woke up i looked around for her and tried to call her , she blocked me – i was crazy by then ..after few hours she called me and said she wanted to see her mom so she come south , Hat yai …then i asked if thats the case why did she block ? she said ” I no block” why i block you and started her stupid argument like i don’t know if someone blocks me on phone ?

    I was crazy and i called her again and again then she blocked me again.I called her friend in south to ask her if she’s there and give the phone to her but guess her friend blocked me too .

    These sluts when doing something wrong all partner up .Hide each other mistakes. Then she came back like nothing happened .

    Too much head ache and too much pressures , my biggest mistake in life is to fall in love with her i.e A Thai bar girl .Finally , we broke up and within a day or 2 after brake up – She got her new farang “boyfriend” (Sponsor) and live together with him while i’m here in my condo like a drug addict trying to call her and apologies (though i did nothing wrong compared to what she did for me) .I’ll soon get over it .

    My advice to all foreigners (Farangs/Asians/Indians/Arabs) – Avoid “love” with the bar girls , yes even i thought my girl is different . I didn’t ask much – just have only me – Is that too much to ask to our girl friend ?

  16. Don Wong July 14, 2016 at 10:40 am #

    Its quite simple. Im 48 year old guy, she is a 28 year old girl. We married 10 years ago. Great 8 years, then the past caught up to her. She cheated on me with many guys. She worked Soi 6 for 3 years before we met. From 15 years old. I lived in Pattaya for 5 years. The fact that I have Millions of USD wore off, the lifestyle got boring as I got older, we had a kid(Great kid) and I stopped drinking, I simply got older. We only had sex 2x per week. So she looked outwards form the family to who ever would see her. She became a prostitute in USA. Why leave a rich and famous life for being a hooker? Its simple, no education. Abuse growing up. Mentally unstable. What ever, I had to divorce her. Gave her $30K and said bye. She pissed thru it in 6 months. She now lives in the Getto and calls me every day to get back. I do feel bad, but the roller coaster must end. Thai girls live for the moment, dont plan. Never think things thru. Everything tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. Anyway, I got a great son out of it. Im happy for the 10 years I had. I would have never married otherwise as I am crazy as the next guy and glad I found someone to be with. It sucks to get old, she will learn that also, she is 29 now and even girls get old. Maybe next she will meet a young guy and learn as I did. In any case, Im glad I own condos in Pattaya and look forward to visiting and meeting my next mrs right!!

  17. Kayden September 5, 2016 at 9:02 pm #

    By now, you guys should be god damn clear to never date or dedicate yourself to a girl who are bargirls, coyote, hookers and all the dirty jobs you can ever ever think of. But hey, have you guys realised something in common? They are born in other province in thailand and not bangkok. Even a girl who is holding a normal job but shes from another province can cheat on you. My advise is only date and dedicate your emotions to a thai woman who is born and breed in bangkok only. Because they are the people whom you can dedicate your emotions and plans on reason being, they grew up in an environment that made them have the mindset that what you and me has but unfortunately these gems prefer thai guys. If you happen to have one and dated someone of another province before, i am sure you are gonna believe me.

    Allow me to share my stupidity with you guys or rather a blessing in disguse. I am from singapore and my wife is a hotel receptionist back then when i first met her. She is from another province. The first time i met her i thought hmmm this should be a normal girl and we are of the same age so yeah things should be fine. However within months. I came to realise she cheat on her thai boyfriend to be with a china man and next she cheat on the china man to be with me. However, she did got her lesson. This china man done something that i never thought that he knew that she was cheating on him and still he doesnt show he knows instead he made her drunk, took pictures and videos of her naked and post on every social media site. Well well well, i should be thinking serve her right but however, i am so stupid. I forgave her. Oh well i thought that everyone deserves a chance. But damn, next thing is when i am video calling with her she knew that theres a guy drinking in the room where she and her sister lives at and she doesnt even told me till the mirror behind her shows it. And all they knew is to shed crocodile tears to gain sympathy. Oh well i forgave her still. Now we are married, we are always together but our relationship is not like the relationship between locals and locals type. She doesnt pour out her feelings, even shes in the wrong i had to made it to the point that i am in the wrong damn it. However there is this time she told me she wanted to be a good person and never ever repeat the same old shit she did and she even told me lets get married, and questioned me do i dare to do so? I told her yes i love u i am more than happy to do so but oh well i told her straight in the face, i will not be paying your family dowry not a single baht and i am gonna stick to my country cultutre and not yours. Are u able to accept it? Surprisingly she did but still even today i still somehow doubt her. Even she pay my bills and stuff but she is still giving me the feeling she will cheat again. But oh well if she does than out she go. I will not hesitate anymore as once a cheater always a cheater but i just gave her the benefit of doubt though. As she shown me that shes changing so yeah. We are of the same age anyway and she never request money from me though but just bear in mind do not engage a thai woman whose from another province except bangkok with a good university like chulalongkorn and breed locally in bangkok hahaha. And please learn how to speak thai well before u engage into a relationship with a thai. Thats all i have to share. Remember thai girls always have the thought that farang are rich. So just dont let her know about your financial well than u can see shes not after your financial status but still thai woman really love sex more than guys. So do make sure u got the right one. Never date a poor family daughter if not u are in deadmeat

  18. john November 15, 2016 at 6:53 am #

    I have a Thai Spouse half my age. We have been living together full time for 6 years now and yes she has cheated with a younger man, so what would You expect, I get looked after fantasticly she never says no to my advances, she has a well paying job. All I do is when I awake in the morning and look at her, I think to myself, you lucky old man, one more day with her.

    • ken December 19, 2016 at 9:06 pm #

      I’m almost in the same situation with my Thai wife. I’m only 5 years older, and we both work. But unlike you John my wife’s weakness is not young men but older men, a couple of months after she moved to the UK, I found out she was banging my next door neighbour on Sunday’s while I was out clay pigeon shooting. He’s a widower in his late 60’s my wife is 27.

  19. Nick March 16, 2017 at 8:28 am #

    I have lived here for years and was heart tortured and nearly killed by my first Thai girlfriend, that was a long time ago now and know how to treat Thai women now and that’s short time only, no Thai girl should ever be trusted with anything like money or your heart my god they are sooo ruthless and good luck

  20. Carlos April 28, 2017 at 1:44 am #

    Quite interesting. How come most of you guys are expecting from a girl to be faithful to you when you are fucking around.
    There are too much generalizations and most of the above stories are about bar girls. There are decent Thai women like everywhere else. You don’t meet your girlfriend back home on sidewalk selling sex. Just same applies here.

  21. John April 28, 2017 at 1:05 pm #

    Carlos, didn’t you read all of the comments ?

    From what I have read on this forum (and many more on Thaivisa.com)
    the stereotype “good girl” in Thailand does not exist.

    No matter what their background, education, upbringing or environment, there is no guarantee that a Thai woman will be faithful !

    In fact there is a very HIGH chance they will cheat because it’s part of the Thai culture !

Leave a Reply