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Gay Tom Tom Gay The new sexual orientation in Thailand

Thailand is the place of anything goes sexually. There are gays, lesbians, Toms, Dees, Krathoys but now there is a new trend that i've never seen before, the Gay Tom or Tom Gay. Confused? I know I am! Toms are what we'd call Butch lesbians but they are a lot different than what we'd expect to see in the West.

For a brief on the different types of lesbians please read my post on Thai lesbians first. Tom's are the guys to the Dees. In essence they are essentially men but without the important part between their legs. They want to chop their tits off and never get naked in front of the Dees. But now I've seen everything with the Gay Toms. There is a growing group of girls who have chose to be Toms but seem to like other Toms which is why they are called the Gay Toms or Tom Gays.

gay tomtom gayNow i'm sure this isn't that new but I've never seen it before and I showed a few Thai people who were completely perplexed as well. Mostly we want to know how it works especially since in Thailand Toms never get nakid or so at least they admit.

Essentially they are just lesbians but don't try to tell them that they will get angry and probably never talk to you again. They hate men which doesn't make sense since they want to be men.

Chiang Mai has the highest concentration of gays and lesbians anywhere in the country. I'm not saying anything is wrong with that but honestly don't understand this new trend I'm seeing here. I've been out a bit in the past month and have seen this new trend growing. I guess I'm just annoyed because the girls up north they are a different breed altogether and are super scared of everything which might explain why they are turning to the other side in droves. I mean get this you go to a Thai nightclub here and half will be lesbian a quarter will have a boyfriend and out of the rest well you've got a 20% chance they won't be scared of farang.

So what's it like in the rest of the country? You see many gay toms in Bangkok or Phuket? How about in Isaan any gay toms?


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Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. In 2017 he stopped writing new content (although does update the site) and is now focused on writing for his new website SlyNomad.com.

7 Responses to Gay Tom Tom Gay The new sexual orientation in Thailand

  1. ChiangMaiGuy November 1, 2011 at 12:38 pm #

    well at least there are more girls for us? all the girls I have asked go with ‘Toms’ for financial reasons not sexual – whoever ‘looks after them’ gets the ‘prize’

  2. Chris November 2, 2011 at 10:55 am #

    That’s weired because the Toms I know are typically out of work and get the dee to work because they can’t get jobs due to how they dress. Ever noticed how many Toms work at 7 elevens, that’s because noone else will hire them.

  3. ChiangMaiGuy November 3, 2011 at 12:29 am #

    well… I can only say that the ones I have spoken too (and these are the ‘female’ part of the relationship’) say they went with a Tom because they got ‘looked after’ – can’t speak for Toms as I have never been with one.

    But this is very, very wierd – Tom gays with Toms? so what about Ladyboy Lesbians??? do you get those? two guys who have the op then become lesbians? it’s too wierd.

    BTW Toms are not lesbians – technically – lesbians share sex together about 50/50 but Toms do all the giving 100% – and the ‘female’ just ‘takes’ – go figure

    • Chris November 3, 2011 at 4:38 am #

      The who thing is just weired, and i cringe ever time i’m with a girl and she says “oh that Tom is so cute”.

  4. ChiangMaiGuy November 3, 2011 at 8:44 am #

    I still think next will be Ladyboy Lesbians

    man changes to girl
    then
    girl (who was a man) likes a girl (who used to be a man)

    get it?

    • Chris November 3, 2011 at 8:51 am #

      Dude that’s just gross. Maybe I should do that for Thai girl of the week lol.

  5. Buttercup June 23, 2012 at 5:38 pm #

    My girlfriend just told me about her cousin who is a ladyboy but is not gay, only goes with girls. Go figure…

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