If you want your first dates to turn into one night stands or sex there’s only one date type you should be doing – drinking dates!
Coffee dates are pleasant at best and rarely lead to sex. Cinema dates are boring and you’re more likely to fall asleep in the theater than have sex. Dinner dates makes everyone full and bloated and no one likes having sex when feeling like that.
Pretty much any date you do other than a drinking one lowers your chances of getting sex. Alcohol loosens you up and loosens your date up, inhibitions are lowered, you do things after a few drinks that you wouldn’t do after drinking a coffee or watching a movie.
You don’t have to get your date so drunk she can’t stand but you do want to get at least 2 or 3 drinks in her (usually enough to make a Thai girl drunk anyway) so she’s relaxed enough and receptive to your advances.
OK enough now about why drinking dates are important I think you get the point, let’s discuss what else you need to do aside from just getting alcohol into her body.
How to act on dates…
Initially when you meet you should be sure not to be too forward, avoid being overly affectionate or touching her until you’ve built up some rapport and gotten to know each other slightly.
Make small talk about things you’ve discussed in the past over text, phone, LINE, Skype, email or whatever. It’s a good idea to look over your past conversation and pick out some details you can bring up on the date and avoid going over the same topics again.
Once she is comfortable enough and decided you’re not a lunatic you can think of stepping things up a notch.
At first you need to subtly show some signs of affection to her. Remember overt public affection in Thailand is not the done thing.
It’s not even common outside of Bangkok to see young couples holding hands and you’ll never see them kiss in public.
Try and sit next to her rather than opposite her to make this easier. Start by simply placing your arm over the back of her chair so you’re not actually touching her yet just warming her up to the idea and she how she reacts.
If she freaks out or seems uncomfortable then slow down and don’t push things too far.
If she seems fine with it then you can move to playfully hitting her arm when the situation is called for, i.e. if she says something funny. If she does it back you’re onto a winner.
Move on to resting your hand on her knee under the table assuming no one can see, again if she seems fine things are going well.
This is controversial as it’s considered rude to touch a Thai persons head but if I can tell the girl is into me and not rejecting my advance I love to take hold of her hair and play with it saying I love their hair.
I’ve even been known to lean in close and sniff it saying it smells nice but you have to be a good judge of body language and whether this will go down well.
Don’t try and kiss her. As I’ve said it’s a major mistake to make and will embarrass or scare her if she’s truly a ‘good’ girl.
The key is to slowly build up tension and attraction so by the end of the night she’s feeling relaxed and horny enough to come back to your place.
If you do none of this at best the date will be pleasant and ‘nice’ but it will have just been like 2 friends going out for drinks and she’ll not be warmed up enough to come back to your place.
Making your move….
When it’s getting late, you’ve had enough to drink, the bar is closing or you feel she’s suitably warmed up you need to make your move.
If you hesitate or give her a chance to jump into a taxi and go home you’ve missed your chance.
At this point if you know she’s 100% keen to spend the night you don’t have to make any pretenses and can just take her back to your place.
However if she’s still on the fence, hesitant, or you’re not sure whether she’s going to spend the night you need to give her a reason to come back.
You can ask her back to listen to music, watch a movie, see some photos of you in some exotic destination or doing something interesting, tell her you want to change your shirt before going back out, check an email, make sure you turned the shower off, have coffee or any excuse you can think of.
What you say isn’t important. You just have to give her a reason to go back to your place without saying “let’s have sex” even if some of them will definitely expect that to happen anyway.
Any girl who isn’t stupid will likely know why you want to go back to your place (sex) but girls rationalize things in their mind in very strange ways and if she went back so you could ‘change your shirt’ then you happened to have sex then so be it.
Back at your place…
When you’re back at your place it’s a 99% done deal. I’ve only ever had 2 girls out of the scores of Thai women I’ve dated come back to my apartment and then not have sex.
Both were quite weird and socially awkward in many ways so it wouldn’t surprise me if they honestly didn’t realize what my intentions were.
Regardless of what excuse you gave the girls for getting them back get them to take their shoes off (they will anyway as it’s Thai culture), sit down and get comfortable, turn the TV / a movie on or some music and pour them a drink whilst you do whatever you told them you were going to do.
Having some Spy Wine Cooler or Bacardi Breezers in the room is a good idea as girls tend to like the sweet tasting sugary drinks and it can help them relax if still nervous.
Sit down beside her and slowly build up the tension again. Tease her, flirt with her, touch her, smell her hair and finally now you are in private and assuming she’s OK with your advances you can kiss her.
From here on it’s about as simple as it can be. Enjoy the sex!