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Why I’m getting married to a Thai Girl

Since I arrived in Thailand I’ve had some pretty awesome times. Never did I dream that I’d even think about marrying a Thai girl. You’ve all heard the horror stories, I know many guys first hand who’ve lost everything in bad relationships with Thai girls even guys that were knocked off in bitter love rivalries and deceit so unbelievable you’d want to kill yourself. But in reality the majority of marriages are still very positive there really are some great girls out there.

Firstly you’re probably wondering if I have the time and resources to crisscross the country using my tried and true Online Dating Method to party with as many Thai girls as I can, Why on earth would I want to or even need to get married? Simple answer is I don’t. I don’t need to get married more than I need to go to find the next lay in some random Thai city. It’s just happening and i’m pretty excited about it.

I’m not just some tourist that lives in their Farang Bubble I actually speak Thai, I know my way around most the country and have Thai friends in many cities. I’ve had a few guys ask me lately why the girls call me Pee Chris? It’s a sign of respect and I do the same thing when I meet someone older in return. Thai’s typically do this only when someone speaks the language well. It’s also a sign that you should know your place. Point here is I know my place in Thailand well enough to know if a girl is sincere or not which made the decision to marry her easy.

I intend to live here for as long as I (immigration) can. I don’t believe anyone in Thailand under 30 should even have a girlfriend unless it’s for convenience. Me, the reason for getting married is really not selfish at all. I want to make her happy. She wants the same for me. Wedding will be late next year.

One of my best friends has married a Thai lady now for something like 20 years as have hundreds of other guys I know who have been married for 10+ years in Thailand. While i’m sure many times they wished they were single overall being married has really helped them be happier.  You don’t hear these stories because they are rather boring. I hope to be on the better side of the statistic.

Getting married obviously people have asked about the Sin Sod. To be honest I haven’t really discussed this at all and until it’s closer to the wedding (next year) it’s not going to be discussed and I’m probably not going to tell you here either but lets just say it’s a very nominal amount. Considering she’s a virgin that I met off ThaiLoveLinks without greedy parents It’s even laughable.

Since my girl is still a teenager things are a little complicated. She can’t actually have anything in her name even buying a motorbike she needs her parents permission even if we’re married! She can’t get into many clubs, well maybe that last one is actually a bonus. “Sorry honey gotta go”.  But it does cause a few problems especially since we’re keen to start a Thai oriented business. Bright side I still have a few years before she can take everything from me I suppose ;)

I haven’t updated much on the site lately because I’ve been stuck on this article, how to word it so that you guys who follow this site don’t stop reading it because I’ve turned into some boring married dad. But this is Thailand, there’s still a need for soapy massages, karaoke, and g-clubs even for the married man not to mention the Mia Noi’s and giks too. If your looking for the real Thailand from someone who not just speaks the language but has lived every aspect of it then you’ll find it here. So buckle up Living Thai is about to fire up again.


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About Chris

Chris founded Living Thai and author of the books Learn the The Thai Alphabet and How to make money in Thailand also the Blueprint for Living in Thailand. Chris started this blog with the aim of educating westerners on how to have the best time in Thailand, to make new friends and to vent his frustrations Chris is also fluent in both written and spoken Thai.

75 Responses to Why I’m getting married to a Thai Girl

  1. Simon July 9, 2013 at 5:12 pm #

    Excellent move! Good luck.

    • Soi sauce August 24, 2013 at 9:49 am #

      Thought you said many times NEVER marry a Thai Woman. Now you’re getting married……

      • Chris August 25, 2013 at 6:43 am #

        When did I say I’ll NEVER marry a Thai woman?

        • brian Sumpter August 27, 2013 at 8:24 pm #

          It was implied like a tattoo on the forehead! Three-way this, 2nd girl for that, sideline girl, gik, etc.. lol!

        • Chris August 29, 2013 at 2:25 pm #

          All standard practices when getting married.

  2. Ryan July 9, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    Well, I never thought I’d hear those words coming from you.. say, do you think there has been a strange dimensional shift and I have taken some of your personality and you mine? Cos it used to me who was the boring married one but me and my wife split and I’m now wild and single and on the prowl..and you’re thinking of settling down! Well good luck to you mate.. hope you can put up with a girl who doesn’t even really know what she wants yet. No offense intended but teens still have a lot of life experience to gain if you ask me, experience that can only come from having a few relationships and a few ups and downs. Still, I wish you all the best… hope you can be a better husband than I was. Congrats!

    • Chris July 13, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

      Good luck being single bro it’s time for you to be a little reckless I think. When i was young I didn’t know what I wanted either. You find it soon enough. I’m happy to just be living right now. Next time i’m down there i’ll look you up, show you how a married guy can still party ;)

  3. Mac July 9, 2013 at 6:25 pm #

    Chris, I think I’m the first to respond to this announcement because everyone else is still on the floor in a state of shock! Honestly, I have my doubts that you’ll ever settle down, but hey, you’ve surprised us before, so I guess anything is possible. If you’ve found your soulmate, and you feel the time is right, then go for it.

    I wish you and your fiancé a lifetime of love, good health and prosperity Chris!

    All the Best,

    Mac

    • Chris July 13, 2013 at 2:11 pm #

      Somehow comments went to spam sorry about the delay. I’m optimistic everything is going to still be awesome here in Thailand if I’m married or not. I’m not going to let the party slow down I’m hoping y’all can keep it going.

  4. James July 9, 2013 at 7:16 pm #

    Just out of interest, how old is she?

  5. BigC July 9, 2013 at 7:27 pm #

    congratulations, I’m sure you’ll be fine.

  6. Tomus July 9, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    You are full of shit and allways have been, us Men that.’s been here for years not a few like you know the crac hope you don”t go home crying to you’r mum in a year good luck

    • Chris July 19, 2013 at 3:12 am #

      Thanks for reading the shit and for your wishes.

  7. Godfree July 9, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

    Congrats!

    I was talking to a friend, ex-US Navy, and gave him the full list of criticisms of Thai women: liars, princesses who want to run everything, etc., etc. He agreed that all the criticisms are valid in his experience.

    Then I asked him for the secret of his own happy, 30-year marriage to a Thai lady.

    “It’s actually pretty simple”, he said, “I just let her do whatever she wants. It’s worked out brilliantly.”

    I’ve had plenty of opportunity to observe the two of them in action as a couple and I’d have to agree with him: she handles everything, even drives him around, runs the businesses, cooks amazing meals, cares for the kids.

    The guy has a dream life!

    Hope you do too.

  8. Mr Hoy July 9, 2013 at 11:11 pm #

    If this is true all the best and good luck, somehow I think it’s a piss take.

  9. One more July 9, 2013 at 11:11 pm #

    “My girl is different” lol

  10. Tony July 10, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    Way to go Chris. Well Done! I’ve been living here two and a half years now, married, and I never had more sex in my life. All free of course. I’m 50, by the way. My Thai wife thinks a real man should screw anything that is pretty and wears a skirt, and she helps make sure I’m taken care of. I guess it’s about finding a loving woman who worships you like a God and understands we are men. Only in Thailand.

    PS Don’t for get the prenuptial.

  11. Ivan July 10, 2013 at 2:30 am #

    Congratulations,!!

    Me too bynext year August 14. hehe.. Guess we both love thai girls more than our nationality girls. Heheeh

  12. Ivan July 10, 2013 at 2:31 am #

    Congratulations,!!

    Me too by next year August 14. hehe.. Guess we both love thai girls more than our nationality girls. Heheeh

  13. joe July 10, 2013 at 2:33 am #

    hi chris, well congradulations. hope all is well with you, if you think you have the right girl for you go for it mate. may your life have many many memories and great times with ur wife forever.
    good luck to you and ur wife!!!!

  14. mason July 10, 2013 at 3:19 am #

    let me guess. your girls different?????????

  15. jake July 10, 2013 at 3:35 am #

    SUCKAAAAAH!!

    No, really. Congrats. As a guy who gets lots and lots of girls, I realize that it’d really have to be a special one to give it up for. Lucky you.

  16. Faraday July 10, 2013 at 4:29 am #

    Congrats Chris…nice feeling being in love isn’t it!

  17. Brian Sumpter July 10, 2013 at 4:44 am #

    Congratulations Chris! You have helped a lot of people understand Thailand, and not just farangs. Thanks for that. And its a darn good forum for people to express their views and experiences. I’m glad you plan to continue to inform about the state of love, sex and everything else in Thailand!

    Yes, all the wild drama, misdeeds, mishaps, and total hedonism make great reading, but that kind of life takes a lot of work! Its nice to settle into some less exciting happiness after you have done it all.

    I’ve met women and other Thais through Thailandlovelinks and they are fine people with good intentions. I think I even went to a very nice party at the owners house, but it was hush hush, so I’m not sure.

    I’m sure she’s a fine girl (my wife is dying to see the photo, too bad for her) I wish you the best of happiness, and success for however you evolve this website. I’ll be watching!

  18. Hangover July 10, 2013 at 5:12 am #

    Do we have the first of April? At first I was shocked but I am happy for you that you have found the one and only to make the next steps in life… I wish you and your girlfriend all the best. *ThumbsUp*

  19. Hello Kitty July 10, 2013 at 6:52 am #

    So you’re marrying a 16 years (x/-) old virgin?

  20. manow July 10, 2013 at 9:19 am #

    Congratulations Chris and best wishes for a long and happy life together!

    Indeed, you aren’t some one week millionaire falling for the first Thai beauty he’s run across, and have an in-depth experience in the culture. This is all in your favor. Whether a marriage in your own culture or another, it changes your life and requires a lot of work, immense patience and plenty of compromise. Just as in your entrepreneurial work, the effort you put in will yield the best value.

    cheers

  21. Colin July 10, 2013 at 6:50 pm #

    Rubbish. Absolute drivel.

    • Chris July 13, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

      Guess not everyones cuppa tea

  22. stevemc July 10, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

    WOW, big move mate. I hope you don’t become one of those bitter men who have been “used” by thai women to get their husbands/boyfriends money and then bitch and complain about being “ripped off” on thai forums.
    All the best, its better getting married here then in oz.

    • Chris July 13, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

      It’s funny cause I know so many guys who come to Thailand BECAUSE they got fooled Down Under. Some guys are just susceptible to it as well. I don’t know the future can’t say that I’m not being fooled till the end. I’m going to be positive.

  23. jefke July 10, 2013 at 11:39 pm #

    Poor girl!

  24. ChiangMaiGuy July 11, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    what???????????

  25. ChiangMaiGuy July 11, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    it’s gotta be a joke…

    • Chris July 13, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

      No Joke it’s real

      • ChiangMaiGuy July 15, 2013 at 3:43 am #

        but why??? Chris you KNOW the deal here, i wasn’t trying to be rude but you said the same stuff about Pattaya – I’m moving bla bla bla – why on earth would you wish to marry a girl here? you’re a player – always will be – it’s not fair on her either and goes against all your postings and as other posters have said

        ‘yours is different’?

        dude this is not wise but good luck with it – but you really,really should know better :)

        • Chris July 19, 2013 at 3:30 am #

          I’m not sure how getting married goes against all my posts. My girl is no different to most Thai girls. As crazy as it sounds I’d like to have kids well at least one. Do I recommend someone else get married, probably not no. I can and do what I want, getting married doesn’t really change that too much for me at least, for others yeah probably. I KNOW the deal here you’re right. There are advantages and disadvantages of course. Am I going to lose my hat to this girl, not even a remote chance.

  26. Louis July 11, 2013 at 12:52 am #

    Chris, thanks for your many posts. I can think of a thousand reasons not to marry this girl that in the end are absolutely meaningless because they would all be reasons that bitter and scared people say or those that have their pre-conceived notions about what love is, what marriage means, the right ages, the right religion and on and on till it makes you sick.

    Thanks for sharing your decisions and I wish you the very best. Even if it does not work out, it does not mean that it was a mistake or you should have known better. Many marriages work, many don’t. There are no set rules. No guarantees and anybody who thinks they know better can do what they want . . . but when it is 10 years from now, and you go to sleep at night and get into bed. . . it is going to be you and that one other person. No one else matters. No one’s opinion matters except for the two of you.

    I know I am preaching to the choir…. I am more saying this for others that are afraid to make the move you are making or who are going to warn you off. You are making the right move for you and I applaud you for it. I am very much looking forward to your next “level” of posts as it were . . . about what the experience is to be married in the Kingdom. . . your final step into the great abyss…. except for maybe having a baby . . . hmmm……

    • Chris July 11, 2013 at 12:56 pm #

      Thanks for the wishes, wishing you the best also.

  27. george July 11, 2013 at 2:53 am #

    Hi Chris so you tell me now you have a perfect thai woman not sure about that mate I am a bit old then you and I have seen it all when it comes to woman from all over the word hop you have a good life with your new lady but watch out mate sound like you have full in love .George From Melbourne .

  28. Aree July 11, 2013 at 8:57 am #

    Dear Chris,
    Are you marrying a girl under 18? :-) just curious that’s all.
    Aree.

    • Chris July 19, 2013 at 2:49 am #

      She turned 18 earlier this year.

  29. Londonlad July 13, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

    Wow. Well I thought at first it was a spoof from you Chris. I had come to the conclusion that marrying a Thai was just mad and that a walking ATM should never marry a Thai.

    Well I guess you know what you are doing and I wish you all the best and good luck.

    There probably are a very very few exceptions to the rule about Thai women only marrying for money. She must be exceptional. Enjoy and I hope that it lasts forever.

    If this is after all a spoof then you have fooled us all. Good luck and have a great adventure. I hope that you will keep us all updated on the wedding plans. Where do couples married in Thailand go for their honeymoon?

    • ChiangMaiGuy July 15, 2013 at 3:46 am #

      yea I thought it was a ‘spoof’ too – it’s quite a shock and almost bizarre but ‘love is blind’ I guess and the ‘my one is different’ i have heard a zillion times here.

      I’m still trying to work out ‘why’ but wish Chris the best

    • Brian July 17, 2013 at 1:57 am #

      As the saying goes: “Money can’t buy you love, but try getting some without any!”

      • Ryan July 19, 2013 at 3:59 am #

        Exactly… especially in Thailand where they are very materialistic!

        • Anthony August 7, 2013 at 6:28 am #

          Not all Thai girls are materialistic. Mine never asks for anything and turned down 2 million dollars this week. Most of my Thai friends are not materialistic, but then they chose to teach. If you try to understand these people you may be surprised.

  30. realderbish July 16, 2013 at 12:41 pm #

    Congratulations Chris, I’m even more excited to continue following your blog and wish you the best. Your an invaluable resource and we all appreciate the continued openness and advice.

  31. Aje July 17, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    Hi Chris, congrats man, best wishes to you. “What IF” she wants to experience another man, or at least sex with another man? That is why my ex gf/wife of 4 years left me…she was a virgin when we started and after knowing about my many other experiences with different women from the past, she felt a bit left out I think. She even said she had to see for herself if the grass is really greener on the other side…so when she found a new “compatible” mate she bounced quick into divorcing me. While it didn’t cost me money, just a majorly broken heart. My lesson is be more careful about trusting any person to continue feeling like they want to be monogamous with you for the rest of your lives. If you guys have an open polyamorous thing going, that may help. Will be curious to see how it’s going in 5 and 10 years time! Women and Men both change a lot in their 20’s.

    • Chris July 19, 2013 at 2:49 am #

      First of all thanks bro every situation is different and I have no crystal ball that’s for sure. I can only make the most of it and my life. 5 to 10 years we’ll see what happens and you’ll hear about it cause Living Thai will still be around.

  32. Brian July 17, 2013 at 1:59 am #

    Will we be getting marriage tips on this website in the future? I’m pulling your leg Chris, good luck. ;)

    • Chris July 19, 2013 at 2:46 am #

      Why do you need them? lol ;) thanks mate

  33. ThaiDatingTips July 18, 2013 at 12:39 pm #

    Congrats on the engagement. I would say a virgin, Thai teenager is a good pick for a wife. The fewer sexual partners you (we know that ship has sailed) and your spouse have had, the higher likelihood that the marriage will last.

    I’m 28, but sometime in my mid 30’s to early 40’s I could see myself being married to a younger Thai girl. Not to a Western woman though, I can’t ever see that happening lol.

  34. Bam July 19, 2013 at 6:22 pm #

    hi CHRIS

    I´m not surprise, no one know in the future what will be happen. I thought and believed this will be happen to you. Now came true!

    Nice to hear that you are going to be positive, Anyway, I wish you REALLY ALL THE BEST.
    Hope you will be a good husband for her- good luck for both.

  35. Dee July 23, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

    Hey Chris, Its been awhile since I been to your site, reading the marriage thing is cool, but there is a ton of time before you tie the knot, I will be back in Thailand in Nov, for a 3-5 month tour of duty, hope somewhere we connect up.
    I wish you well with this new adventure.

    Dennis

    • Chris July 24, 2013 at 12:13 am #

      Awesome bro! Soon as you land connect with me.

  36. Di July 26, 2013 at 2:53 pm #

    First of all congratulations on your big news!

    Wow you are marrying a minor! You claim to know your way around Thailand but you don’t seem to know Thai law, eh? Usually a person will reach legal age once they turn 20 but this legal age can be reached by marriage too.

    • Chris August 16, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

      Dude I know my way around Thailand plenty and yet, with parents consent I can marry her as long as she’s 15 and older the law will not interfere as long as the parents are cool about it.

  37. MikeHudson19 July 28, 2013 at 9:06 am #

    So no more karaoke parties??? Just started really getting into the site.

    • Chris August 5, 2013 at 10:43 am #

      big one coming at the end of the month more info very soon.

  38. MikeHudson19 July 28, 2013 at 9:06 am #

    Just behave yourself and let us have all the fun

  39. screenwarmer January 31, 2014 at 4:51 am #

    Hi Chris,

    I’m assuming you’re still planning on getting married. I’ve been married to a Thai girl for about 6 years now. I really got lucky with her. She’s got a great attitude, good wife, no parents to deal with and best of all she doesn’t ask too many questions. We moved here 5 months ago and I’m still learning the ropes. I love your site which I recently discovered. Many things you write ring so true and you’re going to save me some pitfalls for sure. I like being married and I like Thai girls. Some people don’t get it, “how can you be in love with the wife and still do other chicks?” So I’ve learned I just never talk about it except with a couple close friends. I like sex and I like the process. I realized there’s no need to brag and no good comes from it. I just get laid and it’s that’s good enough. Congrats on your nuptial plans.

    Screenwarmer

    • Chris January 31, 2014 at 8:38 am #

      Yup still getting married prolly the end of this year there are good girls out there.

  40. sheikhoo February 1, 2014 at 9:52 pm #

    hi chris, there is a mexican restaurant (live band) in chiang mai, owned by a texas guy ( a lot of white chicks hang out there at night) and have great food. I need the name and address of that restaurant to pass it to my friends who r visiting chiang mai soon. Hope that you know.

    Thanks

    • Chris February 2, 2014 at 4:48 am #

      Mexican restaurant with a live band? Don’t believe there is one. Loco Elvis might be what your talking about it has karaoke and is popular with tourists. It’s on moon muang road near Zoe in Yellow

      • sheikhoo February 2, 2014 at 8:32 am #

        thanks chris. Now i remember, Yes it is Loco Elvis. and if i m not mistaken, I saw you once there in august last year, waiting for one of the restaurant staff to finish work, right?

        My apologies if it wasn’t you

        • Chris February 3, 2014 at 4:21 am #

          Nah wasn’t me, had you said you seen me coming out of a Karaoke club i’d have said yes it was probably me.

  41. Rich October 20, 2014 at 12:16 pm #

    Hey Chris,

    I just found your site. Good luck with the wedding.
    Just thought to tell you my exp. with my Thai wife.
    She is from the south but I met her in Bkk.

    When it came time to marry her family said they didn’t want any Sin Sod but my wife wanted us to put some for show. 400,000 baht was shown and placed under our bed after the wedding.
    You should talk to your Fiancee about the Sin Sod though. It is not cultural so much anymore here to pay and lose that money unless her family is poor and she is using you to give her family money.
    Many foreigners marrying Thai women fall into that trap.
    With my wife I simply told her that money was for OUR future and to pay made me feel like I was buying a sex slave. This she seemed to understand and accept so the money we showed at the wedding was given back to us.

    My wife is great and our marriage is 2 years going strong. I have the freedom to do what I please. She takes care of me and we just had our 1st baby.
    Massages, trips alone to Pattaya for some fun, are acceptable to her. We have openly talked about my having sex with other women and she is agreeable as long as it is just sex and not love. There is a big difference in the 2.
    It is not easy to find such a good woman who is not super jealous another woman will steal you from her.
    I just got lucky I guess.

    I hope you will find your time with your wife the same as I do with mine. She is my best friend and i love her so much. After 2 divorces in the USA I can honestly say she is the best woman i have ever met. Not simply because she allows me some play time away from home, but because she is honest, playful, loving, caring, and hard-working.

    I can warn you that there is going to be some changes after the wedding. More attention to other things in her life than you would be one of them. I guess this is normal in any relation being that you are most important in getting you to complete the marriage and once finished other things come into focus.
    Other than that I can not complain at all… Being this is my 3rd marriage I knew what I wanted and she has come through 100%.
    Good luck to you in your future.

    • Chris October 22, 2014 at 9:16 pm #

      Many Thanks Rich and best of luck to you too.

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