A lot of guys dream about finding the love of their life in Thailand.
While finding love in the land of smiles is definitely possible, it remains nothing but a dream for many. Too many guys think that dating Thai girls is incredibly easy and that they’ll have girls left and right who would do everything to be together with them.
As a result of that they travel to Thailand with expectations that can never be met and without preparing themselves for the Thai dating culture. Eventually, they end up becoming another tourist who goes to the red light districts, because getting a normal Thai girlfriend seems to be impossible.
The only reason why it seems to be impossible to fulfill their dream of finding love is because they have no strategy that enables them to meet amazing women. That’s why I decided to write down a comprehensive step-by-step guide that will help you to meet the love of your life in Thailand.
Step 1: Learn the Thai Dating Rules
The first mistake that a lot of guys make is that they don’t inform themselves about the local dating rules. I have seen too many guys who have been on dates with gorgeous Thai girls who just got rejected because they didn’t respect the local culture.
I know that you want to go for the kiss after the first date, but please don’t do it at a public venue. Whereas it is totally fine to kiss a girl in a café in London, it is a no-go to do the same in Thailand. Every form of intimacy takes place behind closed doors.
Holding hands and hugging her in public will make her freak out, especially when she is a traditional Thai girl. Get to know her in public and go for the kiss when nobody is around. Do this and you are on the safe side.
Step 2: Think About What Kind of Girl You Want
Most guys who come to Thailand dream about finding a woman who is so beautiful that their heart starts to race as soon as they look into her eyes. While that is totally fine, you should also think about the personality characteristics that your future girlfriend should have.
Not all Thai girls are the same. In a big city like Bangkok you will find everything from the poor bargirl who escaped from Isan to a high society Chinese girl who works as a reputable manager in a big company. You can find girls with traditional values and girls with Western values. You can find girls who know everything about the Western culture and you can meet girls for whom the Western culture is nothing but a strange world with very strange people.
Think about what kind of girl you want to meet before you go on your first date. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to end up in a relationship with a girl who is anything but good for you.
Step 3: Choose the Right Venue
Now that you know which girl you want to attract, it is time to choose the venues where you’ll find those girls. Even though I am a big fan of dating in the real world you can also look for a perfect partner in the virtual world.
I met my Thai girlfriend on Thailovelinks.com and we are happily together for over a year. However, you have to be careful to not get deluded by nice words and beautiful pictures. Don’t start a relationship before you haven’t been on a couple of dates with her.
In case you are more interested in high society girls than in bar girls, you can go to the business districts, universities and to high class shopping centers. There you’ll find plenty of girls who dream about meeting their knight in shining armor.
Step 4: Approach Her the Right Way
No matter if you approach your future girlfriend in the shopping mall or with an email on a dating site, make sure that you respect the Thai culture. Don’t be rude and don’t be too direct. Whereas it can work wonders to give Western girls a very direct compliment, it can be better to be a bit more reserved when you are dating a Thai girl.
It is good to approach her with the right intent, but it can backfire to be too straightforward. Remember that you want to date a girl in a culture in which showing affection in public and talking about sex are absolutely taboo.
Step 5: Set Up a Traditional Date
Whereas it is very common in the Western world to invite a girl to watch a movie on the first date and to end up in bed with her a few hours later, this is not so common in the Thai society. When you are dating an educated Thai woman with traditional values, it is advisable to go on a traditional date with her.
Take her for a coffee, go for a walk in the park or let her be your sightseeing guide. Just don’t invite her to your room without giving her the chance to meet you in a public environment. If you have a great time and a deep connection, you can watch a movie later, but inviting her directly to your place can be a bit too much for her.
Step 6: Find Out if She is the One
Another mistake that a lot of Western guys tend to make is to assume that all Thai girls are supportive, have strong family values and behave like the perfect girlfriend. While there are a lot of Thai girls who are perfect girlfriends, this assumption is not true for all of them.
That’s why it is your job to find out who she is. Ask her about her values, her passion and her dreams. Long and deep conversations are the only way to find out if she is the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If you give her the chance to share her life with you, you will find out if she is the right girl to share your life with.
