Your first message on the dating site is the most important message of them all, so don’t screw it up! Yes it is a numbers game but if you send out a 1000 emails with the message “I like you give me your phone number” it isn’t going to work. That’s because girls are getting the same messages from 100 other guys and you’re just another guy trying to work the system. Personal messages are way better and get you more responses, never and I mean never ask for her phone number on the first message!
Most Thai girls do not go onto dating sites themselves and if they do sign up they typically enlist their friends to sign up as well so if you send the same message to all the girls in your area then for sure her friend is receiving the same message and these girls like to show each other the guys that are messaging them. So if you send the same message to each girl so you run the risk of missing out on both girls even if one of them really likes you. They don’t want players.
So the best messages to send out are one that are more personalized to them specifically you should have several different messages prepared and send different messages to different girls personalizing each message as you send them with their name or their location. Personalizing the email makes them believe you are not playing the system.
In your message you shouldn’t say she is pretty or good looking if she really is she knows it already as a million other guys have been saying the same stuff your message just sounds like everyone else’s. Instead talk about what it is you are looking for and that you want to be friends. Using the friend word works better than saying you want her phone number as the vast majority of guys never play this card and they think you are a nice guy.
Saying you are friends makes her at ease and makes it even easier to get a meeting with her, even if you are friends she’ll typically make up her mind if she likes you or not the first 30 minutes of meeting her anyway even if you state you are just friends. Playing the friends card is also beneficial to you because when you meet and she isn’t interested in you she will have no problems telling you about her friend that she wants to introduce you to. This is the best way to meet a Thai girl as if her friend gives the green light you are in.
A typical good first email:
I saw your profile today and you sound like a nice person and would like to be friends with you. I noticed you like the movie ______I too like going to the movies too, maybe we can go sometime.
A typical message guys tend to send:
Wow you are so pretty you wanna go out sometime please send me your phone number.
The first message leaves the girl thinking you are a regular nice guy not after her for looks or anything extra while the second message makes the girl think you are just after sex with a good looking girl she isn’t going to give you her number unless she thinks you’re really cute or more likely if she sends you her number she’s likely a total slut or a dating scammer.
Another good first message:
Hi there my name is _____ I’ve lived in Thailand for 3 years and like to have many friends. What is your name?
This message works good because it’s leading the girl to believe that you are just after friends, just because she is on a dating site doesn’t mean she’s going on dates all the time like you are she might just be hanging around for the right guy and when someone comes along and just wants to be friends then she feels it’s ok to pursue it if that’s just the intention. It gives you a way out as well when you meet her and she’s dog ugly you can simply replay the friend’s card and ask her if she has any cute good looking friends she can set you up with. Most Thai girls have a few single friends.
A really good message to send in Thai:
สวัสดีครับผมชื่อพี่คริสนะครับเห็น Profile ของเธอแล้วว่าคนนี้หน้าจะเป็นคนดีก็เลยอยากรู้จักเป็นเพื่อนกันดีไหม
Translated: Hi there, my name is Chris I saw your profile and thought you must be a good person so I wanted to know you better, let’s be friends?
This is the perfect email and you’ll get the best results from using it.
I asked a Thai girl what the perfect letter would be she came up with this:
หลังจากที่ผมได้ดูประวัติของคุณทาง Profile ผมมีความรู้สึกว่าคุณเป็นผู้หญิงที่ดีคนหนึ่งที่เป็นคนน่าค้นหา ถ้าผมมีความต้องการที่จะทำความรู้จักกับคุณและขอติดต่อกับคุณแบบเพื่อน คุณจะเป็นเพื่อนผมได้หรือเปล่าครับ
After I looked at your profile I felt like you are a good person that I wanted to meet. If I wanted to get to know you better as a friend would you like to be my friend also?
