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First Date With A Thai Girl (I’ve had 1000’s)

For those of you who have never dated a thai girl and even those that have you'll like the following. I must have had over 300 first dates with Thai girls I either met off the internet or in person through friends and rarely do I ever go on a date with a girl I met at a nightclub or bar in Thailand (mostly cause of bad experiences). So here is a list of how things might go for you on a first date with a Thai Girl.


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  • Will show up with a few friends.
  • Will show up with a lot of friends and expect you to pay for everything for them.
  • May talk endlessly about themselves and almost not be interested in you.
  • You ask a million questions about her and she doesn't ask you one.
  • You ask to meet for dinner and she shows up and has already eaten!
  • Will order heaps of food and eat hardly anything.
  • Will order the most expensive thing on the menu.
  • Won't look you in the eye
  • Won't even talk even when you ask a question it will be a yes or no answer (even if you speak fluent thai!)
  • They are all over you in the club, you get their number but will never answer the phone and just ignores you.
  • You get her number call her and she's busy, like every day for the rest of her life! But yeah let's keep talking.
  • If you're lucky you meet her ask her what she want's to do, she says whatever you want, when i get this one i just drive to the closest short time curtain hotel!
  • Asks you what you want to do, you say i don't know, she say's let's go to the mall, then for the next 2 hours she'll show you all the stuff she would love to have, i want this, I want that, F U!
  • You ask to meet at 6 Place A, it's 6:30 and you call her and she's running late on her way. 7pm you call her and she says let's meet at Place B i'm on my bike. 7:30pm you call again where are you? I'll be there in 10min. 8pm now you call once more like a dumbass, she says, my friend came over i can't come now.
  • You meet her and go to karaoke, you enjoy an hour with her, go to the bathroom come out and she's gone.
  • You go to her place to pick her up, she's forgotton about it and is with her husband!
  • You don't make it to the first date with your little thai girl because her husband calls and tells you to stay away. (I've had this 4 times now!)

Date a Thai Girl

Remember Always that Thai people are unable to say NO. Honestly they are incapable of it, even if they want to they won't, so if they don't like you, they won't be honest either so you need to read the signs lads.

I'll probably come back and add to this later or if you have some send them to me. As for me I have a few simple rules when dating Thai girls and I'm not talking bar slags either.

  1. First date try to hold her hand, she doesn't like it, end the date early.
  2. If she shows up more than 40min late boot her.
  3. If she asks to bring a freind you need to be firm and say NO, if she refuses and insists on bringing a friend, ok, go on a simple cheap and quick date no more than 2 hours, then leave, don't call her wait for her to call you and insist on a date with only you two. If she doesn't agree no problem say bring a friend and you bring another girl better looking than her, chances are the 3rd time you'll get what you want.
  4. If you call her and she says she's too busy to meet after 3 phone calls, NEXT!
  5. If she asks you what kind of car you drive here, hang up immediately and tell her not to call again. If you do drive a nice car here in Thailand and you decide to meet this girl, she will do whatever she can to squeeze money out of you.
  6. If you call a girl before the date and she starts complaining about money, start negotiations now to sponsor her. If negotiations fail, next.

Dating a Thai girl is not going to be fun unless you grow some b**** you see thai girls for whatever reason are just plain weired in their attitude.


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Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. He has lived here for over 10 years and speaks reads and writes very good Thai.

28 Responses to First Date With A Thai Girl (I’ve had 1000’s)

  1. Micheal Lorms May 15, 2011 at 7:28 am #

    I remember one day that a girl came to meet me an hour late, but she had a good excuse so I just didn’t bother. Western and Asian cultures are totally different when it comes to timing. Very good tips and advices here.. perfect ways to avoid girls squeezing money out of you.

    • Chris May 15, 2011 at 8:09 am #

      Some are late for sure, one time i waited 3 hours for a girl, i thought she didn’t come but she said she was there waiting by the bridge. I never held it against her but now i wonder if she really was there (this was before cell phones).

      • Paul July 29, 2015 at 3:47 pm #

        Fuck that… If she isn’t there after 30 mins, text her saying’ if you not here in the next 10 minutes, i’m leaving.

        Go to another bar or go walk the streets and get more numbers. If she txt you wanting to know where you are, tell her to come to your location.

        Same thing if she is late again…

  2. fah November 25, 2011 at 1:00 pm #

    crazy i dont think not evrythaigirl do bad thing like this

  3. EHAO January 1, 2012 at 4:41 am #

    Hey , question …. how do we know they are for real ?

  4. KG April 4, 2012 at 4:39 pm #

    Wondering if you ever educated lady ?

    • Chris April 4, 2012 at 4:45 pm #

      what do you mean?

  5. โอน่า July 26, 2012 at 8:01 am #

    I dont think all thai girls like that…may be you not the lucky guy…to meet a good girl

    the girl whom you date with you can choose ….the educated girl or the girl in the bar or…..?

    my friend, my manager and even my teacher, they have foreigner husband…their husband said, they are very lucky guy…

    i think, its depend on you are lucky guy or not….and the one you choose to date with…what kind of girl she is….

    • rob August 8, 2013 at 6:46 pm #

      300 dates and still no “luck” 🙂

      • Shep September 25, 2016 at 7:00 pm #

        That’s what I thought, 300 dates! who the hell has 300 dates in a lifetime!

  6. John June 27, 2014 at 1:52 am #

    My experience of dating several Thai girls is similar. Most are only interested in having a relationship with your credit card, when the card runs out, the girl runs out.

  7. George September 27, 2014 at 1:11 am #

    Right on target! I’ve dated around twenty thai women and what you left out was, they all lie! We are farang and they are taught to have no respect for us.
    My advice, from firsthand experience, is do not fall in love in Thailand! There is a 99% chance that you will have your heart broken! 99%
    Come here, date a lot of different women, screw them, treat them like shit, then drop em like a hot rock!

  8. Erik February 22, 2015 at 4:20 pm #

    Wow.. So I’ve been Chatting with this thai girl for some time and we were gonna meet tomorrow. I just read this article now and just asked her “you Will come alone right?” She tells me she Will come with friends.. Fuck that. Guess you are right!

  9. Mai April 29, 2015 at 11:30 am #

    Well, I am so sorry that you have to experience this kind of stuff.

    But I think not every Thai girls is like that. I know many Thai girls who are well educate, have a good jobs and money to take care of herself.

    I do believe that if you change the place you used to looking for someone to date and start weighting personality than looks. It might give you the better chance to meet the good girls.

    And for the reason that some Thai girl bring friend on a date with them is they might not feel safe to go out with the stranger alone. It’s better to be safe than sorry, right?
    So if you not feel like pay for them, then told her and her friend to take care of themselves.

    Good luck…

  10. JP July 1, 2015 at 11:04 pm #

    I am a Thai educated girl and I found this offensive.
    Those Thai girls you talked about are the girls only in the club.

    • Alf July 6, 2015 at 2:02 pm #

      I believe in you JP.
      Please tell us, how can I contact Thai educated girl for a serious relation, even marriage?
      Thank you

      • Anonymous February 18, 2016 at 2:55 pm #

        Just read this article today and if you really want in serious relationship with Thai woman I would like to share these and wish you have a good luck as I am strongly agree with how another said they are lucky guys.

        Different religious starts formation of misunderstanding each other by their individual interpretations. Many foreigners thought many of Thai people lie in different situations including Thai women. Strong Thai family bounding hold their children with parents so close even they grown up and become adult. For long time ancient Thai culture gives the honor to the Guy ( or husband) to be the leader and good women do house works, take good care their guys even has a book to teach how to be a good wife, such as even get up before, sleep later, massage, cleanse husbands feet before they sleep, cook good food, blablabla so many teachings. Anyway, from the beginning of these things I can say good Thai women won’t go to the bar except with their friends or brothers keep eyes on and that only for see the world and experience. All bars are not from Thai cultures indeeds, mostly then, I do not recommend to find good women from these places. What good Thai women worry are about they become to be only GF and have only deep relationship and finally without marriage. The deep most proud of themself and parents still be only one husband without separate or divorce later. A bit difficult with foreigners that about sexual relationship with them, which good Thai women aware of it as they keep only for husband. Not just only no teaching to no try before but it is an embarrassment for their parents and family that they become to be easy women, like prostitude, it you can find this from her, then you get super bonus!!

      • Rob S. January 24, 2017 at 5:50 am #

        So, I’m an American who met a Thai girl who had a boyfriend, I dint know what her nationality was and asked her because I was curious. She told me, “Thai”. After that Ive become interested is Thai women, but I read many negatives on line. Is it possible to find a legitimate dating site to meet legitimate Thai women?

    • Anonymous February 18, 2016 at 2:00 pm #

      Just read this article today and if you really want in serious relationship with Thai woman I would like to share these and wish you have a good luck as I am strongly agree with how another said they are lucky guys.

      Different religious starts formation of misunderstanding each other by their individual interpretations. Many foreigners thought many of Thai people lie in different situations including Thai women. Strong Thai family bounding hold their children with parents so close even they grown up and become adult. For long time ancient Thai culture gives the honor to the Guy ( or husband) to be the leader and good women do house works, take good care their guys even has a book to teach how to be a good wife, such as even get up before, sleep later, massage, cleanse husbands feet before they sleep, cook good food, blablabla so many teachings. Anyway, from the beginning of these things I can say good Thai women won’t go to the bar except with their friends or brothers keep eyes on and that only for see the world and experience. All bars are not from Thai cultures indeeds, mostly then, I do not recommend to find good women from these places. What good Thai women worry are about they become to be only GF and have only deep relationship and finally without marriage. The deep most proud of themself and parents still be only one husband without separate or divorce later. A bit difficult with foreigners that about sexual relationship with them, which good Thai women aware of it as they keep only for husband. Not just only no teaching to no try before but it is an embarrassment for their parents and family that they become to be easy women, like prostitude, it you can find this from her, then you get super bonus!!

      Don’t find from the bars!!

  11. Jay September 7, 2015 at 5:36 am #

    Wow, you must be really unlucky, THAT or you just happens to meet women at bars alot. Your points are ABSOLUTELY correct and accurate, IF you’re talking about hookers and low life girls just trying to find sugar daddy, I don’t know.
    For me, women will be women, doesn’t matter what country you’re in there’s a good one and there’s a bad, bad one (not even in a good way) I suggest you start dating up in Thailand, either way, you’re still paying for the first date for Thai girl.

  12. Cecilia October 23, 2015 at 3:04 pm #

    I don’t know what happened with your 300 dates, but I would just like to say that not all of Thai women are like that. I dated some western men, and I paid for my bill. I was always on time too. Therefore, don’t stereotypically judge all of us in a bad way. Moreover, I think it’s a cultural thing that Thai women want to see if the guy they date really wants to see them by letting the guy wait for an hour. ( just my opinion tho ), besides that, Thai women always want to look beautiful on their dates, so they have to spend a lot of time on putting on make up and dressing. Anyways, I apologise for what you’ve faced on your previous dates and hope you’ll find a nice girl eventually.
    Best regards
    Cecilia

    • Shep September 25, 2016 at 7:04 pm #

      I don’t think too many decent guys would take much notice of what this guy has written anyway, 300 dates! that’s just not normal, sure you meet a few different people but if you can’t find someone long before you have met that many I think the problem lies within.
      I loved my time in Thailand and just enjoyed the trips and locals without dating or any seedy activities, lovely and mostly humble people, at times when I witnessed bad behaviour from fellow Australians I was somewhat embarrassed but amazed at how little the Thai people were bothered by such poor behaviour, people need to show some respect in another’s country in my opinion.

  13. Slender February 27, 2016 at 9:51 am #

    I have dated only 4 girls so far (I live in BKK since December 2015). Except one, all of them were the opposite or at least in part, compared to all women you have described above. The first one was so funny and had happy time with her. The second one, was overly spoiled coz she was from a rich family and treated me like I was her toy… After banging her, I gently told her, at the second date that’s is not going to work (yeah, it wasn’t fair. But eye for eye…) . The third one cooked for me at her restaurant, I slept overnight at her condo (we didn’t sleep until 6am… guess what… Hehe), and was very caring. Maybe too much…
    The 4th one was something in the middle and… Very beautiful, highly educated (she works in a hospital in central BKK), very pleasant to be with. Now she is my steady gf and we are happy together.

    I’m really wondering if I was extremely “lucky” or there something wrong with you. Usually, the world around you, is like a mirror of yourself… Maybe you should think deeply, first, what’s wrong with you, before dating someone.
    My 2 cents.

  14. anonymous March 16, 2016 at 8:22 pm #

    I don’t want my name or email on this site. I just want to say that if you are looking to get laid then you are going to get those sorts of girls. There are so many educated, single, and high-class Thai women out there. If you’re not classy yourself then forget about it. Don’t bring in your crude “let’s get laid” expectations if you are serious about dating a Thai woman. If you act low class, you get low class.

    Also, in my 20s, I experienced every single one of those points trying to date American women.

  15. Apocalypse August 14, 2016 at 9:36 pm #

    Thai society is built upon fakeness.
    Source – Being a Thai person and live in Thailand for 21 years.

  16. Confused October 14, 2016 at 10:52 am #

    live in states, like this Thai lady but am kinda shy can’t get around on asking this lady on date dont know if she’s into me smh

  17. Graham December 11, 2021 at 10:33 am #

    This isn’t fair. I know there are some Thai girls who are out to empty your pockets, but you’ll get this in any country. You can’t just slag them all off because you called her expecting instant sex and didn’t get what you wanted. She probably knew that which is why she didn’t turn up. Most girls here who have a bad attitude towards farang, have it because of the way most of us treat them. If you’re going to treat them like a sex ATM, they’ve got every right to treat you like a money ATM why should she put out for free when she knows you’ll probably dump her once you got what you wanted ? These girls are trained in the school of hard knocks and they’ve witnessed 100s of their mates being pumped and dumped. There are many beautiful kind women out here. I’m dating one of them. Treat them with some respect and you might get some back.

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