You’ve probably heard the old saying you know dating is a numbers game the more you swing the bat more chances you have of hitting the ball and in our case finding the right girl for us. Online dating is just like that and the more your profile gets seen the more chances you have of finding a girl that is genuinely interested in you. But how do you get your profile seen more times and how do you do it so that you’re not wasting hours in front of the computer?
Most girls who are serious only talk to guys who live near them.
I have two different friends Dave is reasonably good looking 35y/o from England the other guy Jerry is 46 overweight and from Australia. Now I taught both guys what to do on the online dating sites so that they can get the maximum number of replies the same secrets to online dating success that is in this book. Now as you can guess Dave get’s twice as many replies than Jerry does and when I sat down with them a month after they started online dating it turns out that Dave spends twice as long on the computer while Jerry spends less time on the computer. You might not find that surprising at all since Dave get’s more messages than Jerry but what was surprising was Jerry it turns out went on more dates and landed more women than Dave did! So what was Dave doing wrong?
Dave starts telling me about the girls that he had been talking to and so does Jerry. We all live in Chiang Mai and yet Dave was talking to girls all over Thailand Jerry online talked to girls living in Chiang Mai if a girl was anywhere else he wouldn’t even read the message in fact he’d just delete it block the girl and move onto the next girl.
If you live in Chiang Mai only talk to girls in Chiang Mai there is no point talking to girls in other parts of the country because you know when a guy around the corner from her comes online she’s going to meet up with him and you’ll be forgotten or played and your time will be completely wasted. This is what was going wrong with Dave he thought the greater the amount of messages was better but in fact he wasn’t screening anything he tried to talk to everyone and in the end he just wasted his time.
When you start online dating it’s all a bit thrilling knowing that there are so many girls that are really and honestly interested in you but are they? Many are just going to waste your time and while you’re on the phone with a time waster the perfect girl might be sitting there wanted to chat with you.
Back in the chapter about defining what you’re looking for I mentioned how geography plays a major role in online dating that’s because when you put your profile up there girls from all over Thailand are going to see it but do you really want some girl who lives in Phuket talking to you if you live in Bangkok? There are so many available girls in the city you live in it’s not necessary to look further afield. If you’re coming to Thailand on vacation and you’re just going to Chiang Mai then don’t talk to girls from Bangkok! You’ll be amazed by just limiting your geography how much less time you’ll actually be spending in front of the computer.
The biggest secret to online dating is only talking to girls who fit into your criteria and let’s say you’ll fuck anything you see then really you are only limiting yourself by geography. But let’s say you have 3 different locals that you are going to go to. Then what you should be doing is setting up 3 different profiles each with different pictures on them and similar profiles but with a different location. Again follow the same techniques in this book and only ever reply to people once you are in that location I have done this before and you get more replies and genuine interest because just like you’re deleting on geography so are they. Most girls who are serious only talk to guys who live near them.
This country is not like the western world where you can sometimes just be lucky to get anything in Thailand your options are endless and therefore you can afford to be picky. Being picky and committed is the true secret to online dating in Thailand.
When you define what you are actually looking for then stick with it, don’t change it in fact write it on a piece of paper next to your computer and if anyone sends you a message then don’t reply to it if come across a profile that doesn’t fit into your specifications then block her. You are not being rude by doing this in fact just think of it as spam. Spam comes into your inbox what do you do do you sit there sending them an email back or do you put it in the trash bin, same thing in the online dating world guys you just have to know when to trash and when to keep.
Filtering online increases your percentage of getting with a girl go up incredibly but it’s not the only time to filter either. Once you’ve met with a Thai girl you need to decide then if it’s worth keeping in contact as well. Don’t over read things either I’ve met girls who I’ve read wrong like the 18y/o virgin I thought was too much trouble when I had her in my bedroom and she wouldn’t give it up, 3 days later I got a text message saying she was on the rag at the time and it’s gone now and wants to give it up to me. You have to play the first meeting well of course it’s most important but don’t just let your little man drive you into wasting more of your time either. You have to know when it’s just going to be more of your time wasted.
If your game is to simply have sex with the girl when you meet her then filtering should give you a 90% strike rate, the other ten percent will eventually come through just may take a few other dates. The online dating process is simply the time your online, when you meet the girl typically the online part wanes with her because it’s just easier to give her a call. Don’t waste anymore time talking to girls outside your geographic location and don’t talk to any girls who don’t fit your specifications it’s better to meet the perfect girl for you than it is to meet a 100 wannabes you aren’t even interested in.
Forget fancy meals because this is not what excited Thai women. Talk about future plans like holidays and being together. This is what gets their panties off.
I agree with you here, lot of guys use the “I love you” and “I want to be with you” BS tactic, set themselves up for disaster because your playing with their heart. Useing the “I’m going to Korea next week wanna come” tactic and when it falls through you havn’t broken their heart.