For all the haters out there I bet your just hoping it was me that got scammed and lost everything to a Thai girl. Sorry to disappoint though it wasn’t me! How many times have you heard the story of a guy who came to Thailand met a great Thai girl marries her buys a house and a car and shortly after she takes him for everything he has. The poor Farang that got taken blames all Thai girls for being blood sucking thieving scum but the reality is the reason why he got robbed was due to his own ignorance and stupidity. This article is basically a What not to do with a Thai girl so that you don’t get taken for a ride like the thousands of guys and stories you’ve heard. Don’t be a sucker and make sure you read this article. If you’ve been taken before then I’m sorry to hear about it learn a good lesson and don’t make the same mistake twice and don’t go blaming Thai girls either it’s your fault.
Don’t let your Thai girlfriend have any money
Let’s face it most Thai people have no money and most Thai girls receive an allowance of some sort of their boyfriend or benefactor. There are some rich HiSo girls out there and if you’re with one you can bet that she is more likely with you out of love than for money as she probably has more than you. But the average Thai girl has little if no money and if she does it comes from her parents and when you take her in you’ll be taking over the payments from her parents.
The thing with money is it gives people opportunity, an opportunity to do and go wherever they want to go. When a person has no money they are dependent on someone else this makes them do things they probably don’t want to do. Think of your Thai girlfriend like child support, pay your monthly dues, never and I repeat never pay 10 years child support up front, you wouldn’t do it in your country so why on earth come to Thailand and give a Thai girl 10 years salary just don’t do it.
Most guys I know pay a monthly wage to their Thai girl, I don’t think that’s right either, even when sponsoring a Thai girl. Give her money every day not every month just enough to get by for the day, if she says it’s not enough or wants more tell her the door is there it’s extremely unlikely she’ll walk but if she has the 10,000 baht in her pocket you just gave her, it makes the decision a lot easier.
Don’t let your Thai girlfriend live by herself
I don’t trust anyone, I might have been your friend for 2 years but I probably still wouldn’t trust you. I once had a best friend that I’d known for 5 years we had hung out nearly every day and then one day I’m sitting in the garage of some of his friends who rolled me for my phone and money. If a best friend can do that to you then don’t put it past a Thai girl either, letting your Thai girlfriend live by herself on your dime is just recipe for disaster, you’ll be wondering to yourself all the time if she’s shagging other guys.
Best thing to do in a situation where you can’t live with your Thai girlfriend is to have her live with her parents. Be straight up with the mom and tell her that you’ll pay her room and board as long as she makes sure that her daughter remains faithful make sure there is a clause in there somewhere that states that if you find out your girl has been unfaithful that you’ll stop paying any money. Mom will make sure she stays on the straight and narrow.
Make sure your Thai girl works and works hard!
I keep reading on the expat threads about guys who wouldn’t dare let their Thai girls work for a measly 8000 baht a month. Come on are you serious? Ask those same guys how hard they worked when they were in their 20’s! Working builds character and helps one appreciates what one does with money they earn for themselves. It’s not about the money it’s about having her do something and contributing to society. Having her sit at home and shop all day makes her lazy. Would you let a western woman sit at home all day? God no, would you say to a western woman oh you don’t make enough money at work so stay at home all day?
Don’t let your Thai girl Socialize with other Farang
I know a lot of people in Thailand yet most of those people have never met or even seen my girlfriend. Guys who know me know that I’ve always usually got a Gik or two in tow but never my girlfriend. And there is a good reason for this, when a Thai girl hangs out with Farang too often she starts getting bitchy and argumentative soon she’ll be yelling at you and demanding shit like a western woman even if all the Farang you and her hang with are males it just rubs off on them. Worst case scenario is like one of my good friends who came home one day with his girlfriend screwing some French guy he had met when sitting at his local coffee shop. His girlfriend was bad news anyway but the least opportunities she has to meet other Farang the better.
Don’t let a Thai girl move overseas with you
This is probably the worst thing you can do with a Thai girl and especially if you live in America. It’s so true what they say about America, people from all over the world go to the USA to live but they all come back American. You have your Thai girl live with you in your homeland for a few years and you’ll start seeing massive changes. For the same reasons you don’t want her to hang out with other Farang are the same reasons why you don’t want your Thai girl to live back home with you.
It sounds like a great idea have some hot skinny young Thai girl sleeping in your crib in your own country and while the idea sounds great the reality isn’t. She will change and she won’t be that sweet little innocent girl anymore she will be argumentative bossy and think she has rights and she will she’ll have the right to everything of yours once she has her green card she’ll be shacked up with the college football star from down the road and you won’t have enough money left to go back to Thailand to find another one.
Don’t let your Thai girlfriend speak English
Want to have a deep and meaningful conversation with your Thai girl? I’m sorry to disappoint you but that ain’t going to happen even if she speaks fluent English and for this reason alone there is no reason for her to speak English at all. My girlfriend wouldn’t dare speak English to me I told her from day one that she isn’t allowed to. People have told me she speaks great English but I wouldn’t know I’ve never heard her speak it. And why would I do this? For selfish reasons of course, I want to speak Thai. This is Thailand and we should speak Thai, if your Thai girl keeps speaking English to you then you’ll never be able to speak Thai, put your foot down from day one and go through the hard yards of 3-6 months and you’ll be speaking good Thai.
Some people might say that they want their girlfriend to speak good English so that she has more opportunities, the same guys that say this also say that they don’t want their girlfriend to work for 8000 a month. But unless she works in a bar/restaurant or actually has a degree then her opportunities aren’t increased at all! Speaking English well without having a degree is like wanting to be a chauffeur you can drive but you don’t have a license. Make her speak Thai so that when she leaves you you’ll feel like you got the better end of the deal.
Don’t ever marry a Thai girl
A lot of guys read my posts about having a girlfriend that think that even having a girlfriend is bad idea and well they are right depending on the girl. I have a girlfriend because having a Thai girlfriend makes it so much easier to get rid of all the girls I go through, typically I’ll just take them home tell them my g/f won’t be home for a few days and wait till she get’s home. They quickly leave and my g/f’s temper make sure they run and run fast. But if I was married to her it wouldn’t be that easy! To marry a Thai girl is like signing your life away, soon will come the kids the mortgage payment and gone will be the parties the mates and all the free sex you could think of. Soon enough you’ll have started your life with your Thai wife have the car the house the kids and then soon after she’ll walk away and take everything you have and there is nothing you can do about it.
When a Thai girl says to you she wants to get married just say yeah sure but when we’re ready. And it’s your job to make sure you are never ready, just ready to leave her when you want. These days there is no reason to marry anyone unless of course you want to have kids and then sure get married and be content with paying for sex for the rest of your life.
For those of you who follow the Stickman he married a Thai woman and some say he’s never been the same since. Yet really he’s been living here for more than 10 years and knows what he’s doing. If you want to marry a Thai girl make sure you have known her for a few years first and no shotgun weddings.
Ultimately the reason why guys who come to Thailand get taken for a ride and lose everything they have to some Thai trinket is because they don’t follow these rules. Don’t be an fool guys grow some balls be a bit selfish and get only what you want without losing your shirt.
I might have missed a few things here so if there is anything else you can think of what you shouldn’t do with a Thai girl please use the comment section below.
If you have a story about how a Thai girl stole money from, cleaned you out, or milked you like grandmothers cow then instead of commenting think about publishing your story in the How much she took me for forum so other guys can know what to look for.
I think you had a bad day Chris,
the only thing i agree with you is that you don’t have to marry a thai girl when you are very young.
And i have the impression you are talking about “some kind” of girl, not the “normal” girl.
I like your website a lot but this time you have disappointed me, even though as you always say we have to respect each others views….but relax Chris, they are not all there to eat you!!
Yes, if you have a Thai girlfriend you have to be a little selfish. Because they will take you for a ride otherwise. Yes, i too have heard of some horrendous stories about Farangs being taken for a ride!! Don’t be gullible, they will play mind games to play on your conscience. Also, don’t think you can pick up a bar girl and think you can have a serious relationship with her. Come on, be realistic….they are just going to be money machines lol…..What’s the old saying….You can take a girl from a bar, but you can’t take the bar from the girl! Find yourself an educated office girl for a start. As Chris mentioned, don’t give her all your money, make sue she works for a living, and she will then appreciate any gifts you give her. Don’t open joint bank accounts with them, keep your hard earned money separate. No matter how much you love them at the time, and how sweet they seem, they can become very bitter if things turn sour!!….taking every cent you have, cleaning out bank accounts, taking your valuables and phoning your friends to say bad things about you lol…..fresh arrivals be fore-warned…you are still in the honeymoon phase ha ha!! Don’t promise to marry them, and NEVER promise to take them back to your home country to live!! Let them live by your rules, if they are not happy….remind them they can always get a slap happy drunk Thai boyfriend, and show them the door! I know many Thai men who give their wives NOTHING each month! And, the Thai woman has to support herself and the kids from her own salary.
If your girlfriend starts asking for you to buy her things, just say no…..end of story……you get wise to their games. Then they will appreciate you more, and respect you too. I am not saying to be a mean arse! But, you have to draw the line, and there has to be a limit! If you have had a bad experience with a Thai woman in the past, don’t be bitter. Learn from your mistakes, don’t pick up a bar girl again, don’t give her all your money, don’t buy her a house after only knowing her for six months!! Don’t send them 40,000 baht a month whilst your freezing your arse off in Europe, and she’s shacking up with her Thai boyfriend. Just be sensible and use a bit of common sense, don’t just think with your private parts!!
Ben signing out! lol
P.S. I too only speak Thai with my girlfriend and other Thai people….family etc. People respect you far more when you speak Thai in Thailand. And, you are less likely to get ripped off. Because there’s no language barrier, no room for being the ‘farang buffalo’. I do my own banking, open my own savings accounts, got my own Thai credit card in my name, do my own shopping etc etc
A Hi So sounds nice, but rich thai girls never marry poor farangs,or poor thais. I spent an wild night with a Hi So girl in bangkok once, it was so good I asked for her number hoping for a second round, as she entered her number in my phone I knew it was fake, I dialled it a couple of days later ofcourse it was the wrong number, which was a shame, I could of handled a few more encounters with a Hi So sex athlete, in her enormous apartment.
No matter how charming they seem, and thai girls are masters at making you feel like a king remember you have the dick.
Define what criteria a girl has to have to be considered High-So please. I hear that phrase thrown around too much. Give approximations- eg. in terms of wealth her family has to have 5 million, 10 million, 20 million baht?
Hi-So is a pretty loos term, real HiSo would likely be someone with more than 100 million baht. Though it’s common for Thai people to say anyone who drives a car to be concidered HiSo.
Wow Chris! I agree on every level. I have a few farang friends and people I have met and the long term guys that are happy pretty much follow your advice. There are some exceptions with the Thai language and I see they have more issues. One guy just gives his girl baht every day. No one time monthly allowance. He found that the would a) disapear for too long, b) run out of money within 2-3 weeks at best. I talked to a few girls about living with me and giving them some cash, it is funny that the theme for them is “all at once” I even gave them a calulator and said would you rather have 9,000b a month or 400b a day. All 3 said 9k baht and they knew the daily option was 12k baht. They even admitted they would just spend it an not save it. Very honest about it.
I’m pretty sure if I gave a Thai girl 90,000 baht a month it would still be the same she’d be asking for more money by the end of the month or be living off Mama noodles from 7/11 for the last few days of the month.
This is a great thread I can speak from experience so much of it is true. Speaking Thai is a good idea but I’m not there for long periods any more so it makes it that much harder to stick at learning when your not there so it’s a bit of both ( thailish ).
I’ve had a few Thai girls come to Oz for holidays 3 months is great but enough, it’s also a hassle getting visa’s etc: though your mates hate you having such a hottie while they go back to their fat arsed bad attitude of a wife 🙂
I’ve also given them to much freedom at times on longer stints spoiling them at first the girls really appreciate it then it gets expected, time to say goodbye . What else have I done “money” while not giving the live ins all the cash in one hit I would normally do it weekly that way when it falls apart i just pay them out for week as they are shown the door.
I don’t want to sound like a hard arse but with so much pussy about you hold all the aces never forget that.
Sponsoring someone while your not there is just looking for trouble I can never understand why anyone would do that, but that’s just my opinion.
Youd be sick of hearing those stories living in pattya
I really hate agreeing with Chris on this topic, especially being Thai, but it’s mainly true and “Everyone” should take these rules to heart. Especially, when it comes to money. Very few Thais know how to handle and keep their money, and the ones that do become rich and successful. But for the vast majority of those that don’t, are hopless at it even when taught, and those are the ones you will be dating, chasing, or married to. So even if she makes you feel absolutely worthless for being “kee-nok” (really cheap) or “kee-neew” (stingy), it’s better to be called names and have money, than being broke and not called at all.
King of stereotyping strikes again. What goes around comes around, and you’ll probably get fucked over one day by some white girl and whine about it, all the while complaining that you should have been with a Thai girl instead. Hehe, sorry but I’m not sorry.
I agree with nicole what goes round comes round play with fire your going to get burnt. Your all preditors. And yes sorry but i’m not sorry either. Ha Ha
I’m about to spend 2 months with a thai girl, we’ve agreed on a price. When & how should I be giving her the money?
What’s the deal? are u staying with her, she with u, where, how much was the agreed price, where did u meet her?
cheers,