Single Moms in Thailand
I've been in Khon Kaen a few days now and met a number of people but this story is really about single moms in Thailand not just the one I met. If you use the dating sites you'll notice a very strange fact. 80% of single moms on the dating sites have a son, weird I know, it seems if you're a Single Thai Mom you are more likely to be single if you have a son than if you have a daughter and I honestly can't understand why, maybe you guys have a theory I'm out of ideas.So I meet this girl and she comes with her sexy Isaan friend who as it turns out has a German boyfriend, they've been together for about 2 years now and see each other maybe twice a year. I inquire as to why he's not here with her and she tells me he doesn't have enough money to start a business to live in Thailand, pretty common but I'm surprised that they are still together. Her disappointment that I didn't have a friend come with me tells me she loves her boyfriend but isn't opposed to fooling around on the side, not at all uncommon as you guys know.
This girl they I met up with has never been with a Farang before but tells me she wants to have a Farang boyfriend because her friend has a Farang boyfriend that takes good care of her and so she wants the same. Again not at all uncommon. I ask her what she does for work and she tells me she's looking for work at the moment, again not uncommon for a single Thai mom looking for a Farang boyfriend.
So we have dinner and I'm feeling tired so I ask them to drive me home which they do. We get to the hotel and she tells me she wants to come up to see my room...lol....like i've never heard that one before. I say "you wanna stay the night" of course she says "YES".
I'm always curious about how moms become single in Thailand and their relationship with their former partner as well as their kids so once she's back in my room I ask her more about how she became single and what about her son. She tells me the guy left and found someone else 2 months after she become pregnant. So I ask her if she's in my bed where is her son, she tells me he lives with her own mother in Nakhon Pathom.
This again is extremely common in Thailand, Thai girls no matter how old they are (this chick is 27 with a 2 year old son) leave their kids with their parents to look after while they live in another province. I can never understand the rational behind this especially seeing she doesn't even have a job why isn't she with her son?
She tells me she'd loved to move to Chiang Mai and be with me (red flashing lights in my head now).....mmmm......."What about my son" she asks me!? "Well what about him, would you like him to come with?" She then tells me "No, he can stay with my mom but we just send money to her mom every month".
Again this is common amongst Thai Single Moms. It's like she didn't even want the kid but realizes her responsibility to provide for him. What about her own mother, I mean there is no way I could live with myself palming off that kind of responsibility to my parents, in fact my parents would simply laugh at the idea and tell me to grow up.
So how can a single Thai mom leave her own son and not be part of his life only to chase a Farang to take care of her. Talking to this girl more I realize her laziness and she doesn't have any aspirations or really want to do anything with her life let along care about her own son. I realize she didn't want to have a baby in the first place but she did and she should live with it.
I know I'm not exactly a role model and I'm not in her situation but I do know Ghetto chicks in LA that wouldn't dream of leaving their kids to follow some stranger to the other other side of the country so what is it about Thai women even educated girls willing to dump their kids and move off with some guy they really don't know?