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My First Time In Thailand

Many newbies to Thailand are are basically nerds with money who also have no idea the ways people can manipulate you into believing whatever it is THEY want. Those that fall for a bar girl on arrival are headed for disaster and if you're still green on the streets even in your home town, then coming to Thailand can be disastrous.

Getting fleeced of your money is one thing, your life would be another, but you can get well fucked over another way that most don't talk about and this is that story today.

David is an atypical white guy from the United States who decides to move to Thailand and become a digital gonad.

Soon after arriving to Thailand David meets exotic Thai girl Nok on the beach and they fall in "love".

6 months into their passionate affair she becomes pregnant.

David's over the moon after having falling hard for his Thai maiden.

The time has come for the baby to be delivered when with his amazement the kid comes out...Thai/African!


Undeterred and understanding he is at the point where he's so far invested he decides to stay with them and puts his name on the birth certificated (huh?)

Settled into his new family everything is fine when months later he wakes up one day and...

She's gone.

The love of David's life is now gone and he's left with a young baby.

I don't know what it is but it seems guys just can't seem to figure out who's trying to scam them, who's unstable, and who might be actually worth while dating. Don't let any chick here manipulate you into something you know you shouldn't be doing. It's OK to say you know what, fuck you, and walk away.

If you want a real relationship with someone in Thailand I recommend Cupid. Try searching for women the age of 22-4 when they have graduated and have time to spare while waiting for their degree. This is usually the time in Thai society which is most acceptable to pursue marriage as well.

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About Chris

Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. He has lived here for over 10 years and speaks reads and writes very good Thai.

31 Responses to My First Time In Thailand

  1. Boris Popovich April 25, 2017 at 7:35 pm #

    He should claim temporary insanity when signing the birth certificate, tell the kid good luck, and take off, haha. All women love themselves first, and if you don’t understand that, you will be a sucker your whole life. They don’t loose themselves in “love” like men do, especially the type you “meet on the beach in Thailand”.

  2. Allen April 25, 2017 at 7:38 pm #

    My understanding is in the Philippines it’s much worse.

    • allena April 26, 2017 at 5:06 pm #

      they cook the baby in there O_O

  3. What happened to this blog April 25, 2017 at 8:42 pm #

    Sounds like a bullshit story to get people to click on your affiliate link, I mean is anyone really that stupid?

    • Chris April 27, 2017 at 6:49 pm #

      True story. Yes some people are that stupid. I’ve met em all.

  4. Tim Poplin April 25, 2017 at 9:14 pm #

    Maybe I’m lucky, I met a girl on thaicupid over a 1 year ago. Went to Thailand 4 times so far, stayed at her house, she has 2. One in Bangkok and the other in kanchanaburi. Owns a business making medicine for gamecocks. Does very well she sends me her books to look at every month their in Thai, the numbers match. I keep waiting for her to ask for money every time something happens I think here it comes. Her mom got sick went to hospital I think here it comes, nothing. About a month ago she fell and broke her foot. When I got the text, I broke my foot, here it comes, nothing. She wants me to move to Thailand and help her sell her products in other country’s in Asia.

    I am 58 years old from the US. The Thai girl is 48 as 3 kids all over 19, in collage. She looks like she is 30. My biggest expanse is buying gifts for everyone when I visit.

    It’s only a year anything can happen I just wanted to say sometimes it works. Well until she ask for money

    • Thibault June 27, 2017 at 7:04 am #

      god shexs 48, shes past her date, nothing more to vexpect. you realize they agecat once at 50. just when you ll have married her.

  5. Kip April 25, 2017 at 9:20 pm #

    I’ve met several western guys who’ve been in this situation. Their hearts and bank accounts are broken and they feel very hard done by. But this victim trip is as unreal as their great lover trip was when the affair was going hot and heavy. Often there was a large age gap involved. So, the girls are trading their youth and beauty for the guy’s passport and bank account. If both parties are aware that this is the game being played I see no problem. A question that sometimes wakes the deluded “But it was true love!” ones up a bit is: “If she had been your age (55) instead of her age of 20 would you still have fallen in love and married her?”

  6. Steve April 25, 2017 at 9:23 pm #

    David is a dick!!!

  7. Jon Grah April 25, 2017 at 9:44 pm #

    Most of the older women are aware of [non-condom] contraceptives.

    But in any case, if you are doing GFE, you need to emphasize using Morning After pills. Have a photo of the box saved in your phone to show her that right now it’s just about having fun. They are literally 35-50 baht or so at the local pharmacy.

    There also seems to be some type of medication or herbal supplement that can induce miscarriage. I only wish she allowed me to take a photo of the bottle before she threw it away.

    You cannot always know the ‘real’ person that you are dating until after the fact. The question is how much risk are you willing to take?

    • crocodilexp April 30, 2017 at 1:49 am #

      Morning after pills are not recommended as a routine form of contraception. They contain strong hormones that prevent either conception or implantation of the egg. While relatively safe as a one-off (much safer than a pregnancy for sure), there are potentially severe side effects if used long term.

      If you don’t trust your partner, condoms are your only option right now.

      Inducing miscarriage is a whole different ballgame, not at all recommended do it without advice from a medical professional.

      • Thibault June 27, 2017 at 7:03 am #

        abortion is consideredca crime in thailand ( and obviously it is). you re looking at 20 years behind bars.

        • Chris June 28, 2017 at 3:16 pm #

          No it’s not

  8. Sam April 25, 2017 at 10:09 pm #

    The best place to meet a trsutful partner in thailand is chiang mai.. the girls here are so innocent and they rarely interact with foreigners like in other parts in Thaialand.

    • Thibault June 27, 2017 at 7:01 am #

      this blog has pages after pages of why its false. except, if you only compare it to bangkok, pattaya and patong, the very dens of evil on earth.

  9. Steven April 25, 2017 at 10:12 pm #

    Why would a western guy marry a woman who he can’t understand her language . Learn the language before you even consider Marrige . Marry a woman who has a good job not a bar girl wtf are guys thinking ?
    A lot of thei girls have thai boyfriends or even married . They see a forang as a ATM . Go to Thailand to have fun live a good life . If getting married is what you really want then marry someone who speaks your own language ffs . Keep it in your pants think with the big head

  10. Mike42Night April 26, 2017 at 4:04 am #

    Much of this nonsense could be avoided if men would lose the scarcity mentality and Shit Test women yep you heard men right it’$ time to give as good as you get. 2. Older male expats need to mentor younger dudes, in Thailand there are “still” plenty of women so leave the cocky competitive bs. in the USA.

  11. Kyle April 26, 2017 at 8:03 am #

    I feel sorry for the kid.

  12. Frank April 26, 2017 at 9:35 am #

    David is white.
    Child is Thai/ African.
    David put his name on birth certificate.
    David has “A STUPIDITY problem. ”
    Hold on.
    Maybe David doesn’t know he’s white.
    Girl is gone, David supports child and wife in ABSENTIA.
    David is a stupid f–k.
    I hope he is not stupid enough to let this happen again.

    • Sascha September 14, 2017 at 9:57 am #

      easy to get out of it, paternity test. they know who the mom is and can track her down.

      they might question why he put his name on the paperwork but hey, you can play dumb and say you thought it was just a dark thai baby 😛

  13. peet April 26, 2017 at 4:35 pm #

    Peace love and an open mind my friend, it will just come to you x

  14. Asif April 27, 2017 at 8:35 am #

    It is really amazing to see western men–men of any age–falling for the dumbest tricks in the book. Most men seem to have been pussy whipped in previous relationship/women at home. The contrast with an apparent docile submissiveness of Thai women seem to throw their brains overboard and give them an enlarged sense of prowess, sexual or romantic. The rest of the stupidity is consequential. If you want to get laid to a bar women, get laid with as many as you can. Go home, take a deep breath, calm down and preserve your money hormones (and hopefully your brains) for the next time 😉

  15. Steve April 30, 2017 at 2:10 pm #

    Firstly fall for a bar girl at your peril try to get one with a proper job… if they say they are pregnant get rid or run or tell them you have had the snip

  16. david May 1, 2017 at 9:01 am #

    I’ve lost count how many Falangs I know who have lost money to Thai women.
    Thai women are snakes with tits, very nice looking, but still snakes.
    They are incapable of the emotion love as we understand it.
    As long as you understand this you will be fine and have fun.

  17. Aldo May 1, 2017 at 7:25 pm #

    Same story, again and again. Guys, young and old, loosing their head for these girls. It may take a while before they ask money, but sooner or later they all will. I know a German guy who married a Thai girl, she was already pregnant and he accepted. Difference here was that one day he was threatened by the girl and someone who pretended to be the biological father of the kid: “pay and move out if not we’ll make you pay more and your life will be at risk”. He didnot pay, moved back to Germany and will never return to Thailand.

  18. Moz May 5, 2017 at 6:05 pm #

    LOL good luck bringing a kid that’s clearly not yours back to the US

  19. Just some guy May 31, 2017 at 11:19 pm #

    Legally, the kid is his. He claimed him at birth, He’ll have no problem bringing him to the US because the kid is a US citizen too. He should bring him back the the US as having a half black kid is all the rage now. He can just lie and say the kids mom was black.

    But yes, this guy is an idiot. There was no way this woman was ever raising this child when it turned out to be black. I’m not sure she was even intending to leave prior to the child being born. She probably was a bar girl who failed to use protection and figured who’d ever notice until the kid turned out black. But considering the kid is black and neither of his parents are he’s a walking billboard saying “My Mom is a skank and my Dad’s an idiot.” No way she was hanging around for that.

  20. Mike August 8, 2017 at 7:22 pm #

    you have got to be a special kind of stupid to end up alone with a thai/african baby haha. Perhaps he is stupid enough to enjoy it hahaha

  21. GuidoSexMachine November 1, 2017 at 7:27 am #

    This blog article reminds me of an old joke I used to know: …This black guy walks into a bar with a parrot on his shoulder and the bartender says, “Hey buddy where did you get that?” The parrot says, “Africa, there’s a lot of them over there.”

  22. GuidoSexMachine November 12, 2017 at 10:27 pm #

    Sad story. Aren’t these guys called “Captain Save a Hoe?” These are usually white night type guys who meet a bar girl in Thailand, fall in love, and refuse to believe that she isn’t just a money grubbing slut that she is. They think they’re gonna save her from the GoGo/Bar scene. Usually it turns out bad. Some guys are just morons.

  23. beh October 2, 2018 at 5:40 pm #

    hi chris no news from you ?

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