If you’ve been reading my blog a while now you’ll know that I don’t date bar girls and rarely head to soapies. I do enjoy going to a few bars and love the Karaoke houses but you’ll never see me actually hanging out with a bar slut. When you speak Thai well like I do it’s hard to take bar girls seriously, but then even without the Thai language skills it’s just common sense not to date a girl that exchanges sex for money unless of course the girl is just after a sponsor.
Not all Thai girls are lying cheating whores like sometimes I make them out to be. There are Thai girls out there that are educated, smart, have a decent job and are hard working. And just because she is a good girl in public doesn’t mean she ain’t a bad girl in Bed. The difference between a good girl and a bad girl is quite clear.
If I were coming to Thailand on vacation for a few weeks I’d be reckless I’d be at the bars the go go’s riding up large bar bills and sure maybe walking some skank back to my room. This is because I’ve only got a few weeks to really go wild so why not. I guess you can call that being a sex tourist. Sex tourists don’t want to meet a good Thai girl because it’s too time consuming they just want to do as many young thai girls as they can.
In your first year living in Thailand you don’t know anyone, and because of the language barriers you tend to just glide to the Farang bar areas that have the girls with the darker complection tattoos and know pigeon English. I’ll call the guys at this stage of living in Thailand Fish. Many guys get stuck being a fish a long time if not forever. Fish find it hard to meet a good Thai girl because of the language problems and the good Thai girls they typically find speak perfect English and are highly opinionated like western women.
After you’ve been living in Thailand for a year or so and you’ve picked up conversational Thai you progress to the next stage which I’ll call the Paradise stage. During the paradise stage things are awesome, you still get lost when people talk to you but you’ve developed enough skill to master the dating sites and pick up girls from 7 eleven. I call it paradise because during this stage you sleep with a lot of girls. You stop paying for sex and start paying for movies and ice-cream. You have an awesome time hanging out with so many different girls. However during this stage you probably still blow off the good Thai girls because you just want to bang different chicks. Guys who find a girlfriend in this stage and settle in with her will never reach their full potential. You havn’t mastered the language yet and what will happen is you’ll start speaking English to your girlfriend who will learn it faster than you learn Thai.
Guys who find a relationship when they are still in Paradise mode will end up returning to being a fish. Those guys who havn’t reached their full potential will get comfortable having a girl they can order stuff in English who in turn can make it happen. They meet up with their other farang friends at the bars for a good night out but back home to the misses. No more overnights at random girls houses. Just short times from the girls they can get when out with the boys. This is a waste you can do that back home.
For the privileged few who have reached enlightenment and can speak Thai very well you have reached the holy grail of finding a good Thai girl. You can meet girls anywhere with ease you know just by talking to a girl what type of girl she is. You make Thai friends easily and through those friends you can find good Thai girls that are into you and not your wallet. You can find good girls yet still have fun with the bad girls, life is great.
So why do I make comparisons of finding a good Thai girl to your ability to speak Thai? That’s because to truly know the person you think you know you’ll need to know not just her but her family. Thai people are uniquely molded by the family. For you to know if she comes from a good family or not you’ll need to be able to talk to her family which unless her family also speaks perfect English (unlikely) you will never learn a key part about her.
Good Thai girls don’t go to beer bars in Pattaya, they don’t hang out on chat rooms but they do go to clubs but will be surrounded by friends and you’ll have no chance of an entry no matter how fly you think you are. Meeting a good Thai girl requires you to use acquaintances to find her and language skills to court her.
There are good Thai girls everywhere and believe me when your a fish you’ll kiss plenty of frogs. To figure out who is a good Thai girl and who isn’t I always employ the following theories which have worked well in finding out if she’s only a bad girl in the bedroom:
- A good Thai girl rarely shows the skin on her shoulders. Bad girls have no problem wearing singlets.
- A bad Thai girl will never pay nor even offer, a good Thai girl likes to share.
- A good Thai girl will be nervous about you meeting her family, a bad Thai girl won’t even think about it (you’re already number 50 they’ve met).
- Good Thai girls will always worry you are with someone else, bad Thai girls will be all non-chalant will say they are concerned but you can tell in their face they are just saying it and arn’t as scared as a good Thai girl.
- Only bad girls have tattoos in Thailand, good Thai girls don’t.
- A good Thai girl will not sleep with you on the first date.
My idea of a good Thai girl may or may not be the same as what you think. For me a good Thai girl is one that I can trust, can look after herself and doesn’t need me but want me. A Thai girl who has good family that won’t be calling her for money all the time. A good Thai girl dresses appropriately speaks politely and doesn’t talk trash.
Now I can’t tell you where find a good Thai girl all I can say is once you have reached enlightenment you’ll know where to find her.