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Mia Noi – Having a second wife or other girlfriend in Thailand

Polygamy is not outlawed in Thailand but that doesn’t mean it’s still not widely practised. In fact in Thailand it’s almost expected that you have someone on the side although these days it’s more likely to be (a girlfriend) than it is to be your second wife.

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mia noi or second wife in Thailand

mia noi or second wife in Thailand

Before you get all excited about having two girlfriends at the sametime in Thailand let me explain how it actually works, as your fantasy of two girls in Thailand could be further from the reality than you think. I’m speaking from personal experience and having two girlfriends at the same time is really a lot of work especially if one or both of them don’t know each other.

Typically the way people have their second girlfriend or “Mia Noi” as they say in Thai which by the way basically means “little wife” meaning she has a lesser importance in your life also meaning you have a main squeeze typically you are legitamately married to or in a serious relationship. Thai people have done this for centuries and it’s more accepted. I’ve met literally hundreds of thai people that live in two different places. For Thai people though you never see a big wife with a smaller wife living in the same residence, that would be uncool in their eyes.
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Damn there goes your dream huh! Well not quite, still means you get two girls just not at the same time. Not unlike cheaters back home really, though this isn’t cheating like it is back in the western world because they have names other than S$%^ b$% and so on, just sounds more respectable doing it here.

If you’ve ever had a Thai girlfriend though, you know how crazy they can be, to the extent they threaten to kill themselves, playing with the Mia Noi could get you into big trouble with your main squeeze, you should be careful when treading down this path, it’s a lot easier when you start out single to get two girls than it is to have one already then trying to get another? That makes no sense you think? Well think about this, if you have a girl already how much time you get alone to find another one, trying to establish a relationship with a second girl without your first girl knowing, and even if the second girl knows about the first (typical) you’ll have timing problems seeing her. But when you are single you can chat up and establish a relatinoship with two girls at the same time very easily.

How can you get two girls that know each other and be ok with you having a relationship with both of them at the same time. It’s not as hard as you think. If the girl really does like you, enjoy your company she’ll be ok with you seeing the other girl, when she asks you to be serious with only her you need to be prepared for that response and handle it well. Because the answer needs to let her know that you love her and want to be with her but at the same time let her feal bad about having asked you in the first place, you play on the fact that she is a woman and she feels bad about the other girls feelings. If at that stage she says leave the other girl or I leave, you be firm say that you love her but if she has to go you won’t stop her……..And!…….will never have another girlfriend again except for the girl your with…this is so important! You need to make her think that she is really important to you and you’ll be at a loss. It also makes her feel that if one day you break up with the other girl then and then only you’ll only be with her. Chicks will hang on to this hope for years and years.

Eventually though Thai girls will just stop hoping you’ll break up with the other girl and just accept the fact that this is the way it’s going to be.

You don’t need to be rich, famous, or even good looking to have two girlfriends in Thailand. You just need to be smart about it, I say all the time that honesty in Thailand will get you everything you want, people ask me all the time in Thailand, What do you want? What do you need? Thai people love service, that’s why you came to Thailand and that’s why you are still Living In Thailand. Enjoy the service and take every bit you can get. Have your second wife and enjoy yourself.

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About Chris

Chris founded Living Thai and author of the books Learn the The Thai Alphabet and How to make money in Thailand also the Blueprint for Living in Thailand. Chris started this blog with the aim of educating westerners on how to have the best time in Thailand, to make new friends and to vent his frustrations Chris is also fluent in both written and spoken Thai.

5 Responses to Mia Noi – Having a second wife or other girlfriend in Thailand

  1. John King November 18, 2011 at 9:46 am #

    What about just getting 1 girlfriend, even once? Am I that pathetic?

    • N Pod February 4, 2012 at 4:39 am #

      Buddy, I’m married to a Thai woman. An I lived there for a few years. It’s harder to stay single in Thailand. Finding women is easy. I’ve seen 60 year olds, married to 18 year olds.

    • Bam January 6, 2013 at 7:56 pm #

      John King, good idea,good man that you will NEVER know and see how the HELL look like, all right?
      IF something happen in your life….
      I will try to support you all situation even you don’t have any coin,food, bed for sleep i will be always by your side because I know you are good man and honestly and you will try till your life go up again, I believe in you!!!

      All the best to you!!!

  2. Bam January 6, 2013 at 8:04 pm #

    John King… I believe nothing will happen to you like that because you are good so…

    • Smart choice December 18, 2013 at 3:27 am #

      Amazingly I have done this and the other girlfriend not that much angry and the fact that am cheating her with 6 others it’s quit funny it’s easy to lie than tell the truth

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