Farang and Thai Bar Girls in Pattaya
Living in Pattaya is definitely an experience and what's most startling is the amount of guys who fall in love with these Isaan bar girls and have delusions that these girls love them back. What possesses a man to come to Pattaya pays for a girl to sleep with him then thinks because he sends her a few hundred dollars a month that she's only working in the bar or go go and not going with other customers?
As I've been doing the circuit around all the bars/clubs/go go bars in Pattaya a recurring theme has emerged. When I talk to these girls most say they have a Farang boyfriend that lives overseas and she is waiting for him to return. Next question is always how much is the bar fine and how much are you for the night, I've yet to hear a no "I'm waiting for my boyfriend!".
Funnily enough most girls will not admit they have a Thai boyfriend, which I think is strange because hell why not, your telling me the rest of your life story why not tell me about the Thai boyfriend you have too? I'm pretty sure this is because they are ashamed to say that their boyfriend either encourages or tells them to work in the bars. Screwing over a Farang seems to be OK though.
I'm at the world wide a go go between sois 7 and 8 the other night (cheap 60 baht beer) when I call over this girl and ask for prices for 3 days for a vacation me and my girlfriend are going on to Hua Hin, she tells me she can't go because she has to get a Visa to Norway in Bangkok on the 23rd but otherwise she would love to come. What's the Visa for I ask why you going there for? Oh I've been before my boyfriend lives there. OK so your boyfriend lives in Norway sends you money and he is OK with you going with customers? Oh no she says he thinks I don't go with customers but I do! She says with a grin.
Is this guy totally naive or what, girls don't work in Go Go bars in Pattaya for tips and the monthly wage. The real money is made when they go with customers and if she wanted a monthly wage she could easily go get a job or ask the dude so she can go study so she can get a good job. I just don't understand these guys and yet another reason why I really don't like working girls.
So I spent the night last night with a go go girl fresh of the farm who has taken a liking to me and we hang out after she finishes work. She gets me to translate and send messages to some douche back in England who keeps sending her money after the 3 days they spent together. So far she's got a laptop a Blackberry phone and about 40 thousand baht (she's been in Pattaya for about 16 days. After those 3 days he's professed his love for her and can't wait for the day that he returns back here. I reassure him via email that she isn't going with customers which I suppose is true since I'm not really a customer. 🙂
If you're going to go with a bar girl or go go girl just have fun, don't fall in love with these girls, this is just work to them and even though they say they want to find love and will give up the life for you don't be a fool. Even if you were to get them out of the bar and be with you as soon as the money runs out so will they. Have some fun and leave it at that if you want to find a good girl try one of the Thai dating sites.
Hardly ‘fresh of the farm’ Chris if she’s been banged by the Norway jerk who think’s she the girl of his ‘dreams’ (or nightmares?) – I call ‘fresh of the farm’ REALLY fresh with no experience whatsoever of farang, blackberry’s, laptops or whatever.
Anyway i’ve heard so many stories of twats who come over here and do all this stuff that it’s becoming boring.
Even more boring are the 60+ farangs who think their silly 20 something girls really love them not their money – it’s so stupid that I can’t even discuss it with them these days.
‘Oh she really loves me not my money’ is sooooo boring from some fat old farang who is 30 years her senior – get REAL .
Like I said to an old farang the other day ‘you look like Brad Pitt right’? not sure if he got the message – bored with people’s stupidity. I can just vision this Norwegian guy ‘but she love’s me and she’s different’ God it’s embarrassing
Haha it’s very normal in Norway to say you love girls in gogo most time you get extra service. I have 3 lady waiting for me every time I send them 1000 baht month to be avaible each time I get there. I just change lady when I find a better. This is really nice and it’s not about being naive but to know what these girls wants. I must say they always wait for more money but it’s an explanation about everything.
Lol did not see it was a old site:p
simple logic why don’t these guys use a little common sense and save themselves from being looted & eventually hurt . the old saying is so true you can take the girl out of the Bar but NOT bar out the girl.
What makes you think the girls have thai boyfriends?
Most of these girls don’t have time for a boyfriend as they sleep most of the day not to mention the stress it must put on the boyfriend, that their girl suddenly disappear to Phuket or similar for a week or two with a rich old japanese guy… and sometimes the girls do actually develop feelings for their customers.
I know of one working girl with a boyfriend, but that relationship is
pretty weird, as he is 10 years younger than her, only see her occasionally, and I am quite sure that a) he has other (more serious) girlfriends and b) he is unaware that she goes with customers.
That said, if a go-go girl has a thai boyfriend, in a falang’s ears, that probably sounds harder to “compete” with (the old male fantasy of saving a bar girl, which doesn’t seem quite as nice if the girl being saved actually has a native boyfriend).
Girls love to talk about other girls and when you speak Thai as well as I do you get privy to certain information and as inquisitive as I am i’ll ask those questions.
Many a Thai girl is pushed into work by their Thai boyfriends, sounds hard to comprehend but not really, let’s say your girlfriend can make a months wage in one night and give it to you, it makes the decision to let her go off to Phuket much easier, besides while she’s in Phuket you get to take her money and screw around on other girls, in my mind if I was a Thai guy I’d have 3 of these girls!
This is all why marriage is a good idea. Its like they say in LA: If you aren’t f****** someone, someone is f******* you.
And, yeah, the girls love themselves, their family, and the money more, but if they do what you say, and act like the love you, what the hell is the difference?
If you want them to actually love you, become a buddhist, and go to the Wats. Not surefire, of course, but it helps. Meditation is very healthy. Beats drinking all night!
I believe you are describing the relationship between a pimp and his working girls, not that of a couple being romantically involved 😉
As for the girls in Phuket, the majority of the sex workers there are single mothers with their children taken care of by the family (which they’ll send money).
As you probably know, many thais have no higher education, get their first child when 18-19 years old, and are expected to take care of their parents’ retirement, this is what makes many of them go into prostitution (not their thai boyfriends). Of course there are exceptions…
There are many different stories for sure.
Many girls have thai boyfriends as well, they are happy for their girlfriend to go and make money so they can gamble and drink it away. I can never get my head around why the girls put up with it but many do.
The other comments you make are very accurate and as unfortunate a circumstance as it is that’s the reality of it and one of the main reasons we all go there. Just enjoy it for what it is.
Yes some do have have pushy Thai bf’s. However, a heck of a lot don’t, nor do they want one. I’ve known a quite a few Pattaya girls as friends over the years, not one had a TBF. …. and I’ve known their friend/family set up quite well. If you’re a trusted friend, they tend to be quite open & truthfull.
Sponsored girls ( silly farang sending $$ ea month ) is very common some have multiple sponsors. These are the girls more likely to go with you ( if they find you remotely interesting ) for free or the sex is free you pick up the tab for everything else. I will never forget a girl named Dom who I become good friends with. We where together this night, one of her “boyfriends has 3 making a total of 105,000 a month from hand outs ” rings she is telling him how much she loves him while I’m doggying her ( she never missed a beat ) he asks why she is talking funny and making those noises. She says she’s playing with her son.
I helped Dom countless times getting her from one place to another or writing emails or sms’s for her. It wasn’t uncommon to have two of them ” boyfriends” be in town at once in which case I would write an email for her ( i had her email details p/w etc: ) telling one she was busy at home (farm ) or with the family and wouldn’t be able to make it for next few days, week or what ever it was. I figured these guys cannot be that silly to not have any idea what is going on surely, so helping Dom and others at times tell someone what they want to hear,I have no problem with.
Like others have mentioned these girls will open up to you if you gain their trust. I learn’t so much from her which has served me well over the years.
great story dude, I too have seen the same thing.
God bless!!! So Sorry for good farang and THAIs of course.
If I were her or them, that had Thai boyfriend let me or told me to go to work with sex or shit around people then I would think a lot he is REALLY love me and how good he is.It’s so painful if you are really love someone, Of course! I will never do that.I love to be pround for each other for the good things,good experience and somethings else. Maybe they job to earn money but not the way to HURT someone.Really not nice,If were you, how you will feel the same.
Anyway, people are different and depend on situation they have had, can not judge the people for some reason.