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An excursion into online Dating Sites in Thailand

In the name of research for this blog I recently signed up to two of the major online dating sites here in Thailand Thailovelines.com and Thailovelinks.comboth sites are pretty similar though it looks as though ThaiLoveLines has copied ThaiLoveLinks. I personally havn't used either of these sites since I started typing Thai quickly which was about a year or so ago and let me tell you it's been an experience.

The past 2 weeks I've been chatting and trading messaging with the lovely Thai girls of both of these sites and in just those two weeks I must have talked to over 100 different girls. Some long conversations and some short conversations and many times i've blocked girls or called them on the phone only to tell them on the phone "I'm not interested".

If you've been reading my blog for a while you know that I use a free site called msn.postjung.com and my girlfriend finds girls for us from lesbian.postjung.com basically the same site but different. If you can't read,type, or speak Thai though your going to have absolutely no luck here whatsoever, but let me tell you the stark contrasts from using a Thai dating site to a Farang oriented dating site.

  • First Thai dating sites are free! Farang dating sites you have to pay!
  • Farang dating sites are full of girls with kids
  • The Thai dating sites have 100 times more available girls
  • Thai dating sites have girls who are just looking to hook up, the girls on the Farang dating sites are looking to date or rather for you to take care of them.
  • Farang dating sites have decent chat programs while the Thai dating sites you typically have to add them to MSN and if you change computers alot it's hard to keep track.
  • There are way more Ladyboys on the Thai dating sites so if that appeals to you I'd go there, but not for me.
  • Girls on the Thai dating sites are easier to hook up for a romp than the Farang oriented dating sites
  • If your looking for a wife or a girlfriend go to the Farang dating site because the Thai sites are mostly for hooking up.
  • All the sideline girls looking for hook ups for 500 baht to 2000 baht per time are ALL on the Thai dating sites.
  • Finally i've got laid faster (within hours) on a Thai dating site than I have on a Farang dating site take a look at my video for evidence

So I'm in Chiang Mai of course but how many Chiang Mai girls have actually contacted me? Maybe 5 and that's from both sites. Sure I had girls IN Chiang Mai contact me but they were not actually Chiang Mai girls, they were usually from other provinces. As I keep saying Chaing Mai girls are never looking for Farang guys so the only way to hook up with them is to be super aggressive. And if you want the nice white skin Northern girls then honestly these Farang dating sites ThaiLoveLinks and ThaiLoveLines are really a waste of time.

First thing I noticed when I signed up were the number of girls who had kids, I asked many of them why they were here and they basically said that the reason why they were looking for a Farang was because Thai guys no longer wanted them and that Farang men they thought were more understanding of girls who had kids. In fact the word Sort or โสด in Thai which means single no longer applies to a girl who has kids. In Thailand you can no longer call a single mom Sord (โสด). Of course these girls are struggling so there trying to catch a Farang man that can take care of them.

The next type of girl I encountered was the "Language Learner" girl. She's not using the site to find a boyfriend she's basically using it to practice and learn English. Kind of like a free teacher. You know these girls because they say in the first 5 minutes that they want to learn English and if you will teach them. Block these bitches straight away they will waste your time.

Another type of girl I didn't find much of but they are still there I call her "The scam girl". She's out to scam you for every dime your stupid enough to send her. I bet she does pretty good too supporting her studies by scamming guys off the site. First girl I found that did this said she lived in Khon Kaen and was out of work and could come and see me if I paid for the bus. Dammit my girlfriend and I invented that scam (whoops cats out of the bag I'll probably lose some readers now).

Tips and tricks about using Online dating sites in Thailand

When you start using the online dating sites you have to remember there are thousands of single girls there from all over the country. If your not in Thailand and don't care about their location then your options are limitless but your time isn't. You have to really stick to a number of rules that can save your time so you can spend the best time with the right girls. Here is my advice.

  1. If a girl starts saying that she wants to learn English cut her off and say that you don't want to teach anyone english!
  2. When a girl from out of town says she wants to come see you if you buy the ticket block her immediately and report her, she's scamming you.
  3. If a girl says to you she wants or wishes she had a laptop BLOCK!
  4. Know when a girl is wasting your time and just block, grow some balls when talking to a girl you think sounds off and tell her straight, your not interested.
  5. If after a quick chat and a few messages and she doesn't give you her number and says something like "oh I want more time to get to know you" Block don't keep talking to her she's just going to waste more of your time.
  6. If a girl is being super aggressive with you wanting to meet, say you want to meet and go do the business as soon as you can before you meet. If she says no then good you got rid of her, if she says yes then awesome have fun!
  7. Say you have a g/f already trust me, it's the easiest way to get rid of a girl when you no longer like her and it's also a good way to make her work harder for you so you'll be with her. Also chances are your honesty might make her tell you the truth about the other 10 guys she's dating.

How to get a date with a Thai girl not from a dating site

Let's say your not into dating sites or maybe you like the girl at the counter at the local gym. Don't go up to her randomly and ask for her number or for her to go on a date with you. It's too confronting for them. Make them think your a really nice guy first. What I do is I'll ask her randomly on a number of occasions if she's eaten yet, and what did she eat. This way you'll know what she likes to eat for lunch right. Then Go and buy it for her on a few times dropping it off to her before lunch and say I thought you might be hungry today so I bought you this. Cake works good at any time. A few times after this then ask for her number or ask her out, she still might say no but your chances are 90% better than they were if you just asked her out straight away. The way to a Thai girls heart is through her stomach.

Final Thoughts about Online Dating sites and Thai girls in general

You can check out my profile on those sites if you do a search for guys aged 31 in Chiang Mai and you'll see that I wrote my about stuff in Thai language. It basically says that I have a g/f and that I'm looking for a new one. What never ceases to amaze me is the amount of Thai girls who either don't care and even like the fact that you have a girlfriend already. Even if you don't have one say you do! Because it's easy to explain things like why your not answering your phone (because your out with another girl) why you can't see or talk to her everyday. The girls I've met were really nice normal girls who were all cool with the fact that I had a g/f already. Oh one more reason why this is a good idea. If you say you live with your girlfriend she won't show up unannounced!

Oh my g/f found out that I was calling a few girls because I plugged in the wrong bloody sim card into my phone. I'll write a post in the next few days about what happens when my girlfriend catches me doing the dirty behind her back 🙂

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About Chris

Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. He has lived here for over 10 years and speaks reads and writes very good Thai.

5 Responses to An excursion into online Dating Sites in Thailand

  1. bacardiboy December 5, 2011 at 8:09 pm #

    great well informed article , since i cant read or write thai msn postjung is not for me . thanks Chris

  2. Mr. Somchai December 7, 2011 at 8:11 am #

    Cake works every time, classic.

    So true about saying you have a g/f. One of the reasons I’ll probably never really be able to respect them. Two articles that use science to prove it’s true:

    Do single women seek attached men?


    Why do single women like taken men

    This knowledge completely changed my outlook on life.

  3. Dave December 16, 2011 at 7:31 am #

    Nice breakdown of the Thai online dating scene, Chris. As your article points out, there are many unscrupulous people registered on these sites trying to scam Westerners. But with a little common sense, and using the suggestions in this article, it is possible to have a successful experience meeting someone via online dating. Though I still think that the risks are much higher going this route, even though it is the path of least resistance. For Farangs who are currently in Thailand and are looking for a good relationship/marriage with a Thai, I recommend trying to do it the traditional way… just meeting people (preferably away from the red light districts). Your tactic of offering to buy food is brilliant. Eating food with someone on the street is probably the best social experience in Thailand. Just be careful and hopefully you won’t need a Thailand divorce lawyer later on…

    • Chris December 16, 2011 at 7:33 am #

      lol until you can marry two girls at once I don’t think I’ll need a lawyer because I won’t be getting married. Hey quick question, in California I divorced my wife by filling out a form at the post office, can you do the same thing here?

  4. LivingLhai August 13, 2014 at 7:50 pm #

    to divorce here you need to get a form paper at amphoe…..must be subscribed by man and woman and gave back to amphoe staff..divorce done

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