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Thai Girlfriend Scam

Lots of guys seem to fall for this scam even a dozen guys I know read this blog are getting scammed right now. If your sending money to your Thai girlfriend this article is not to be missed! The Thai girlfriend scam is not exactly unique to Thailand but Thai women seem to either by themselves or in groups figured out how to get guys to send them crazy amounts of money for doing absolutely nothing.

The following video you'll see a Thai girl who runs the scam and you'll be as amazed at I am that anyone would even send her a dime. Girls like this don't really annoy me it's the guys that send the money that really gets to me. As the girl in this video explains the guys send her money so she doesn't have to work in a bar, but the likelihood that she even worked in a bar is pretty low in the first place.

Thai girls like this are cunning, manipulative, and are worse than whores. In fact whores are probably a whole level above these girls because they are straight up, pay me have sex and move on. These girls just keep you around until you stop giving them money. Believe me if you aren't with the girl all the time and your sending her money she's going to be playing the same game with a dozen other guys all the same looking for new prey.

There are a lot of lonely guys in Thailand and I get that, like in this video one of her victoms is 65 while she is 25. Hey if i'm 65 I can totally get that but damn guys unless she's right there taking care of you and polishing your knob at your beck and call then don't send her 40k a month! Are you stupid?

I'm fine with finding Thai girls to sponsor,  and pay a monthly fee obviously university students are cheaper because their expectations are lower but girls over 25 I find to be more demanding and sneakier like the bitch in the video but younger girls can be just as cunning so really you have to be just as smart and sending a girl thousands of dollars a month that isn't there to take care of you is not smart!

You ever get caught up in this scam before or know someone who has please let us know what you think or how it happened in the comments below.

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35 Responses to Thai Girlfriend Scam

  1. valdi June 3, 2014 at 4:38 pm #

    Scam City BKK

  2. Mr Hoy June 3, 2014 at 5:38 pm #

    Happens all the time when you get the girls confidence or they remotely like you, they open up and tell you so much about what they get upto.

    The most blatant experience of this I have ever seen.
    I was with this girl in Ptty I’m doggying her one of the boyfriends ( had two handing over 60k a month total ) she telling him how much she loves him misses him he only man for her, he says why are you breathing so heavy and panting ?? she replies ” I’m in the rice field hard work very hot ”
    He says ok take care I speak again next week.

    At first I felt sorry for this bloke thinking I would have loved to tell him what is really going on, but then thought if he is that stupid I doubt he’d believe me anyway he’ll have to find out the hard way.
    Meanwhile I’ll just keep seeing her for free every now and then.

  3. K Spicer June 3, 2014 at 9:45 pm #

    I’ve had (engineering) friends in Thailand for over 30 years. And they tell me “Thai ladies do no sell you pu$$y (hee). They sell you problems and give you the hee. More profit that way”.

    • Chris June 4, 2014 at 12:21 am #

      Best saying I’ve heard yet! Thanks for sharing

  4. White Tiger June 6, 2014 at 11:07 pm #

    Heya Chris,

    this is quite good advice for anyone you meet in ‘tourist Thailand’.

    My girl is middle class Chinese Thai from a very strict traditional family. Has her BA and works 60+ hours per week at a major bank.

    Lived there for 9 months, had a few one month trips, even stayed in the room I helped build as an extension from their family home in Pranburi.

    I know life in BKK is expensive, and a 14.4k salary is a joke there, so I help out. Specially since her Pops had a bad car accident. He used to pay for all the big things, as her salary barely covers the essentials (not to mention she is eldest daughter and has a strong duty towards her 2 siblings)

    Even will all that, I do feel a little crazy for ‘sponsorship’ even though we are engaged. We talk maybe twice a week and those are short emails now lol :/

    Really stuck between: Not wanting to complain, as Thais kinda hate that … ultimatums .. dunno we seem to be so far apart.

    Last time there it seemed she was trying to make stronger commitments, doing a condo pre-sale, promise ring etc. Maybe afraid I had next to nothing to lose if I walked … lol

    Rambling now! You have much wisdom about all things Thai and could use a second opinion. Talked with Stickman a year ago and felt a little better, but time apart always makes me feel this way. 10,000km is so far away

    • Rocky June 11, 2014 at 4:12 am #

      “I know life in BKK is expensive, and a 14.4k salary is a joke there, so I help out.”


      Lots of people live in BKK for WAAAAAY less than 14K USD a year.

      Here’s a food blogger who describes how he loved a year in BKK, with his Thai wife for 7K USD:

      And even if she only made 14.4K THB, so what?

      Part of Life is Living Within Your Means.

      You, sir, are what Psychologists call an “enabler”

      • Chris June 11, 2014 at 12:58 pm #

        Huh what a joke, i’ve seen that blog before and it’s a joke to say you can live on $7000 with a wife in BKK for a year, actualy read the article lots of expenses were left out. How bout you compare it with someone who spends $70,000 a year, completely different. Yes you could do it, anyone could i suppose if you had to but if you chose to your a fool.

      • Matt June 11, 2014 at 9:32 pm #

        Nah she makes 14.4k Baht per month. Her SCB overlords only repay 50+ hour weeks with training opportunities and the odd ‘end of quarter’ bonus

        Studied there for 9 months, so I know the cost of things. I could never hit Tesco without dropping 1300B, Home Pro a hair less.

        Her Toyota costs like 1400 Baht to fill up lol. 3 hrs of commuting from Samut Prakarn daily, plus her one day off is an 8 hr round trip south of Hua Hin (traffic blows hard)

        If I had no air con, and only ate questionable street food and solely used a bus .. maybe I could live for 14.4kB a month.

        That blogger is far from a ‘source of truth’ I do have to say, having a local help you shop and find a place is key. Anything advertised in English is going to be 200-300% the cost, as will be rent without a 6-12mo contract.

        even paying direct to MEA for power I dropped 2-5k a month rofl. That aircon was going 50% of the time … prob 10 years old and out of gas. 10k/month for decent condo in Thana City

        ‘enabling’ is far from accurate. Helping someone who’s duty is to help everyone else in her family, regardless of her personal needs.

        They are very selfless and most Westerners can’t even wrap their heads around duty to grandparents, younger siblings … parents who taken a turn for the worse. Something I love her for 🙂

        • mark May 16, 2017 at 2:46 pm #

          hhmmm, you need to lookup up enmeshed family systems and sociopathic traits my friend…

        • mark May 17, 2017 at 7:06 am #

          this man posts in 1 sentence they are selfless, yet in another sentence claims they will scam farangs 200-300% of the cost of things/ yet i am certain if this man was no longer a source of supply to his girlfriend, she drop him like a hat, these people haven’t taken the worse either, he is not credible at all.

    • Wakeup April 26, 2017 at 4:49 pm #

      White Tiger, I ;ive in Thailand for 20 years running a business here. The reason their fraud succeed is to tell the dumb foreigner how hard they work, the parents is sick, and then their absolute culture stunt.

      The only honest Thai women are the prostitutes that gives you what you pay for, and the really educated ones that comes from respectfull families that will refuse money and gifts from you. The good Thai girls that comes from respectfull families will even insist on paying their fair share in a restaurant.

      Unfortunate those good Thai girls is not in the tourist market and very difficult to find for a foreigner as they support them selves and is not in the meat trade wagon. My Thai girlfriend is a nurse, I was fortunate to meet her through a thai work friend. It took years after we meet before she got serious about me.

      She pays her own way, own car, own condo. She buy me clothes from her money as she want me to dress as she likes. If we go out with her friends she pays at the end of the evening together with her friends, they share the bill. They refuse any money from me.

      She told me the only time that she will take my money is when we have children and she can not work. And she does not earn a fortune a month, nurses earn between 14k to 22k a month, but she has a car, a condo and every thing she needs in quality.

      Besides the good Thai ladies that understands a foreigner in need for a reasonable price, ANY Thai women that asks money are scammers.

      Do you know how many times I have heard from these retarted foreigners the words “my prostitute are not as bad as the other prostitutes”. And 2 months later he asks money to survive ?

      1) Gamblers have set rules to survive
      2) Prostitution has set rules to survive
      3) Love has set rules to survive

      4) Scammers has no set rules, just excuses, lies and sorrows to slowly drain your blood !!

      • thai farang October 1, 2018 at 2:55 am #

        Yes, i met one girl in thailand who paid her own way. She took me out to breakfast, bought me a cake for my birthday, and even bought me a birthday gift with her own money. She actually didn’t like the whole idea of me whisking her away and paying all her bills, she wanted to work. In fact, I’ve never met any thai girls that didn’t work in some way. it didn’t work out, but I wish her well.

  5. Mike June 9, 2014 at 5:09 pm #

    Great post Chris. Straight up and honest. Liked the comment about the hee too, accurate.

  6. TylerB June 14, 2014 at 12:34 pm #

    I laughed when girl in the video said she is 25 yrs old.
    90% of Thai women 26 yrs of age and older always say they are 25. I’ve heard it so many times from so many Thai’s woman who are obviously older.

  7. gmp360 June 17, 2014 at 5:42 am #

    I’m always amazed by how ugly the scam girls are. It’s like the guys think “well she’s not attractive, there is no way she could have other boyfriends. I must be the only one”.

    • Mr Hoy June 20, 2014 at 4:52 pm #

      LOL While your right the good lookers get plenty to don’t worry.

  8. Palmer October 9, 2014 at 7:13 am #

    Thai girls want a great life. They just use the weak man to luck the life of them. They know their power is in their beauty and there is always somebody willing to pay. There will always be sponsors paying for visa and marriage. They have no idea about the troubles. Just raising the voice on their wife is enough for the girl to get rid of the “loving” husband, playing a victim of domestic violence and enjoy her new visa status. They can be cold blooded following their dreams.
    The girls never have enough money. Just do not marry them. Renting them a unit for daily service is much better. Sponsoring their boobs implant is also more cost effective than marriage.
    Yeah, I found the ‘business’ type of relationship with my Kati in Australia worked just fine. She was always coming every evening. You do not have to marry a chicken farm if you want a chicken soup.

    • mark May 16, 2017 at 5:05 pm #

      yes very cold- hearted ruthless and immoral, they deserve their fate

  9. Michael October 26, 2014 at 12:42 am #

    Gotta say I agree with you. Marrying them is not an option here. Better to sponsor them, get what you want from that, and leave it with that. No strings attached, which is the way it should be 🙂

  10. Bkk rookie November 23, 2014 at 12:39 pm #

    Once I sent my thai lady $1000 to buy a necklace she had been begging me for. Instead of buying the necklace, she bought a cheaper one and used the left over money to buy her parents some stuff they really needed. I found out when the parents thanked me for my gift. There was some deception there, I guess, since my lady told me she wanted the money for one thing but actually wanted it for something else. but I don’t begrudge her for it. A sense of duty and obligation is what motivated her, and I dare say it’s what motivates most of these girls when they take up with a farang. Thai women will almost invariable hit up a farang boyfriend for cash, but they are fundamentally decent in a way that western women almost never are.

  11. Marchie February 3, 2015 at 10:11 pm #

    Thailand is changing all the time, and I think it is not getting better. I have been coming here since 2001. I hear of people being ripped off weekly and everyone thinks it will not happen to them. One has to consider that most Thai women work long hours for a little money but they often have boyfriends and giks (lovers) to help them out. Thai women are also far more than men expected to look after their parents and their parents exploit it to the hilt. They will phone their daughters out of the blue and tell them they need 20000 Baht and not even tell them what it is for. They are under enormous pressure to provide and feel that if they do not they will go to hell for it (their Buddhist beliefs). I have even been watching some pornos where the Thai GF is with the farang guy and Thai gardener comes to fuck his missus, something like that. There is an enormous stigma to date and be married to a farang guy and getting worse. I know one Thai women in Chiang Mai who told me her father had sex with her and she still went to visit him on Songkran New Year to pay respects for him.
    In my experience you should do the following
    1. If she says she is earning 14K a month and drives a car she is talking shit. It is impossible to do it when the car costs 1400 Baht to fill up. She is getting the money from somewhere else – gik, boyfriend, another. You are being scammed and she is lying to you. No one likes a cheap ass but do the maths. She would need at least 15000 to pay for the car per month. If she cannot pay she will do tricks for it, or have a few BFs and giks on the side. I met a woman working at Toyota driving a huge sedan and she wanted 10000 Baht for one night of pleasure. She did not have the heart to ask and asked me to “help her out”. I gave her 500 Baht the next day and she was miffed. The next time I wanted to see her, she said she wanted 10000 Baht.
    2. Always find a GF who is working. I now so many farangs who GFs who are not, and they always land up in shit. Just this last week a friend of mine, his GF is not working and she took his entire month’s pay packet. If they work at 7-11 or at a company make sure they have a job and know the value of money. Just to get it from you, she will never appreciate it.
    3. Nothing is for free in Thailand. You have to pay for it and that includes the pussy. She thinks the same too. Sometimes cheaper to pay for it nightly than think you are going to get it for free.
    4. Find someone decent who has a good temper and will not shake you down for too much.
    5. Rent instead of buying. Whether that is the car or house or Apartment. You never get the money back. When it goes tits up, then move on. You will never get the money back. Agree to an amount up front, maybe 10000 Baht a month. Make sure that includes the sex and she knows that. When the sex stops so does the money. Nothing is for free and no Thai guy would put up with that. If you agree to pay half for the car and another 6000 for the Apartment it should be enough, 30000 or 60000 Baht is over the top and you are being ripped off. If she is not up for that, do not be scared to try and find someone more decent.
    6. Try to get someone with an even temper. If she gets angry easily she does not love you. Thais are taught to keep their emotions under control. A bad tempered Thai is a bad sign and means she does not love you. I promise you on that.
    7. Rent and do not buy. The car, the house, the pussy. When it goes tits up, move on. Unless you can trust her after years. Short tempered Thais are bad news.
    8. Keep your money separate and never let her know how much you have and where you keep it. Consider she rents her apartment and you yours and that way you always have freedom.
    9. Know where she works.
    10. You never get satisfaction through the courts and police, but you can approach them politely if you want to, the police that is and ask them to talk to her. It may help.
    11. Understand her beliefs – Buddhsima and try to learn the language and culture. Farangs are considered to be too direct, outright rude and insensitive. Sometimes it drives us mad they way they drive and wait in line patiently for things, but they are taught to do so. You can screw things up by being too impetuous. Try to be patient if you can and you will be liked. Chill out, go with the flow, have a beer and be a nice guy and you will be more liked.
    12. All the young girls are getting on the game. They have choice of working in a factory or 7-11 for 8000 Baht a month, or finding someone to give them 20K or 30K a month. After years of shitty education where they learnt nothing they go for the line of least resistance of finding someone to finance their lifestyle. The car, the house, the jewellery and most young Thai buys are as useless as them with no money and no future with 15 giks who beats them.
    13. Thais are very good actos who watch soapies all day long. I am convinced they want that drama in their life. Do not hesitate to tell them they are being “Hollywood” or “Golden Globe 10 Oscars”. They understand what you are saying.

    • mark May 17, 2017 at 7:29 am #

      such drama and crazy making making, all a form of manipulation, attention seeking and control. keep your money deep in your pocket, many are love frauds/sociopaths/narcissistic parasites, from enmeshed families, who raise their children from an early age to be meet their parents needs /desires as their property, investment, sex objects for sale. These women then treat men as objects as well.These are very twisted individuals sole intention is to exploit you, use you as a source of supply, be heroes to their parents,.nothing to do about helping parents when they are old, parents take money from them soon as they work, parents stop working way before we do in the west. why work when you can find other suckers to support you…ladies are for rent basically here… parents are the lessors and you are the lessee… once you stop paying you are evicted…this mentality lifestyle is prevalent and defended strongly even though it is immoral. they claim they hate lie and cheat, using, yet they are exactly that… Most of their relationship are short lived as when men see what they really are about they leave, In their late 30-40’s they will have nothing. and the cycle will continue.Their deserve their fate.They are not victims. I have no compassion for people who use and treat people this way. I am speaking only about men here looking for a sincere relationship. Be careful here this is prevalent and some even call it the culture

  12. Marchie February 3, 2015 at 10:18 pm #

    I bet after the interview he went back to her place and shagged her… she has the look in her eye… like please fuck me….

  13. mark April 13, 2015 at 6:06 pm #

    Not have much experience, but must say that it’s so dangerous.

    Little by little the demand of buying something / anything to her grows.
    So you don’t notice that what started as 300 baht is now 3000 usd !

    They can say anything but if you really think about it with your brains and not dic* you’ll see that it’s all lie.
    They need to get the money to the children / parents or both and they are willing to do and say anything… i mean anything.. to get the result = you giving the money to them… all you have

    It doesn’t matter if you are smelly, old, drunk or whatever, just as you have the money to give.

    Sometimes you don’t give the money, then it can be a long time scam, you’ll give it after couple years of marriage or later..

  14. Jake December 13, 2015 at 4:20 am #

    I’ve lived in BKK for 10 years, and I’ve seen many farangs including friends who visit me from back home, fall for these girls, and they use the same bag of tricks: “my father sick, accident”, “my sister university, need money” etc… and I can’t believe how many times they fall for it.

    If you need to find out what’s really going while you’re away, take a moment and think, hit me up if you have to, I’ll get to the bottom of it:


    “Sometimes you don’t give the money, then it can be a long time scam, you’ll give it after couple years of marriage or later..” very true.

  15. Anton May 11, 2017 at 3:26 am #

    Wish I had read this before.

    I had a girl who moved in and even brought her kids t5o love with us. She was great until I decided to question her movements and withhold funds. Turns out she had a boyfriend and much of what she said was lies. .

    She has multiple profiles on Thai dating sites such as ThaiFriendly

    Her profile bounces from Bangkok to Pattaya. She is listed as being 38-39 but is really 43. She has four kids. says she wants more but that is a lie also. Her boyfriend does not seem to mind her playing the field.

    Involving her children was the lowest scam of them all.

    • Barry December 4, 2017 at 2:24 pm #

      I’m wondering if we got duped by the same bitch… can you give me a bit of info like name or initials, age and gender of kids, what city she lives in, and when did this happen?

  16. mark May 16, 2017 at 2:23 pm #

    I am having a difficult time here. I am actually a sensitive caring man just wanting a nice companion. Many of the women I am meeting are in their 30-40’s. Most of course are single parents living with their single mothers etc. I had a lady tell me she was recently separated looking for a husband. I asked her out she said it will be 2000 bht a day. I was told she was not a gold digger. Another lady i met said she was single looking for a husband. She lied about having 2 kids then told me her ex bf from Germany was killed in a car accident in his country. he was sending her 20000 bht per month of which 1/2 went to her mother. Another lady I thought was a good lady within a week of dating her, I did not sleep with her began to ask me to cover costs for her daughter and mother, said you dont love my family. I never met them. I dated another women again did not sleep with her, said Id like to see you more often, she said marry me give me mother a dowry. I am learning the families here are incredibly enmeshed and parents also exploit their children. I dated another lady for 4 months, i actually loved her, but so much drama and accusations of me cheating, lying etc, yet I worked about 50 hours a week, studiend on weekends, and just wanted to be with her, In the end I found out she was hiding money, claiming she was broke, and wanted to send her daughter to Japan. In the end she was cheating and possibly in contact with other farangs. She often left in the middle of the night or cancelled dates saying i have to work a few hours. Although I know there are good people here many families are money hungry. I hear horror story after horror story from my work colleague, friends, classmates. I just cant understand how they lack such a conscience or are able to somehow justify their exploitative nature. Saying we are not free.To be honest it is such a turn off for me to be with such a woman. I would not touch her even.Been here 1 year and I am looking for a wife. Not get drawn into all this crap.

    • mark May 16, 2017 at 3:38 pm #

      Just warning everyone, be very careful here, many are love frauds, sociopaths, far worse than any prostitute. Love frauds are romantic relationships and long term scams with sociopaths/narcissistic parasites, usually from enmeshed warped family systems… described as the most dangerous personality type of the human race. They are not what some describe here, selfless individuals wanting to help their loving families. This is not love.They are in fact the problem in this society. These parents use/manipulate their children ( daughters) to meet their needs and desires and as investments/possessions/sexual objects. to profit from. Of course once men realize they are seen more as object they move on. If these women have been treated like objects all their lives and to serve their parents from a very early age… you will be nothing more than an object to them as well. I know there are some good and enlightened Thai’s here and many have warned me as well. They told me if they ask for money early on leave them. Many are also in denial here. If something feels off about them, trust your gut, get away.Can be very toxic being involved with them, otherwise i wouldn’t be warning you. I’m shocked to their sense of entitlement and defense mechanisms. Being single here this is one of the realities to dating and marriage.So be very cautious and I hope if you are sincerely looking for a good lady that you find one that has no agenda other than being in a good relationship and comes from a respectable family.

      • Barry December 4, 2017 at 2:41 pm #

        I hear you… but a little bit late unfortunately. Have just broken up with one after two years. She played the long game, I waited until we engaged after 18 months before starting to help with money.

        A number of things didn’t add up, so after a few weeks of online searching eventually found someone who led me to her facebook profile…. WOW… man what I found out was almost unbelievable.

        Other men, lies about ex husband, money, status and travels.

        By that time it didn’t come as a complete surprise, but the extent of the lies and deception even to her friends and family, really shocked me.

        She is a full blown narcissist .

  17. Sam July 14, 2017 at 3:41 pm #

    A friend of mine have a very interesting five years long story with all avoidance, such as pictures, copies of money, transactions, ladies names, etc..involved in similar if not worse Scam as a group.
    My questions is, will you do a report of good stories ?

  18. Zig June 20, 2018 at 5:02 pm #

    I was a victim of the Thai girl scam . Was in a serious relationship , sending my girl around 60,000baht per month . Was going great , until down the track , I check her facebook , and a Thai guy kept popping up . So I checked his facebook , nothing obvious , then I looked at his Instagram…. Omg ….. there was a pic if him in her bed , her sleeping lights on , her earphone ( I checked , I was chatting to her that night , while he was sleeping with her ) on her side of the bed , impression of her head on her pillow ! Hmm !!! Her explanation…. I had many friends drinking that night , he drunk , I let him sleep my bed , it norman ( normal ) if my friends drunk , to sleep my bed . Dumped her straight after !
    Then , after I dumped her , I went way back , at the start of my relationship with her , and was checking her Instagram posts … what a goose I was ….. since day one , her instagram posts always contained a tag #P ….. the #love #me #you #forever ….. could never figure out what the #P was , until I asked one of her friends after I dumped her ….. she said ….#P ……is Pee her secret boyfriend for more than 2 years .
    I will say this ….. use what tools you have at hand before becoming involved with any Thai girl … check their Facebook and Instagram , not just current , go back . I was a dill , there are evil girls out there . It turned out , I paid for her and her boyfriends total graduation year , apartment , food , rent , electricity etc etc .
    Now , she is living with her brother , her bf dumped her , because she cannot support him ,has no job … and keeps emailing me for money !!! I told her to enjoy the gutter , that’s where she belongs . And ….. I’m not a nasty guy , but karma has struck her ….Aaaaa !

  19. Don tamba July 11, 2018 at 7:47 pm #

    Thailand has no welfare, general relief or unemployment benefits, no dole, food stamps, no government assistance. The girls will never starve or be homeless as long as they pitch in helping their immediate family….its a mutual support system and all important safety net. You as the farang BF or even husband will always rank 5th 6th or even a step below the family buffalo ……as the family buffalo can work the farm fields and provide a mean of substance. Any BF or ‘sammie’ can leave the relationship or divorce. There is no guarantee you will stay with them while blood is thicker and their family is forever.

    One golden rule is to never never never send them any money. Never sponsor any girl….and I don’t care if she’s ‘different’.
    Any amount of money you provide will never be enough.
    Another rule is to never have her take you to ‘visit the family’ unless you’re willing to support a small ISAAN village.

  20. Zoe Mcintyre November 18, 2018 at 8:10 am #

    My ex went on holiday for 1 wk in Sept and has now (yesterday) given up his job, flat even relationship with his kids to move put there to a Thai women he apparently loves he also apparently bought her a massage parlour! (Only known her 2 to 3 days at most!

    • Zoe Mcintyre November 18, 2018 at 8:11 am #

      Oh I offered him a divorce b4 he left but didn’t want one so hope she doesn’t wanna get married like lol

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