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How to know if a Thai girl is into you

I guess you could say that this article relates to not just Thai girls but most girls in general however Thai girls have a unique way of knowing that they are into you. Almost always it’s never spoken either, Thai people have a hard time being up front about anything and less you ask directly and even then you might not get the right answer, either way you’ll never hear someone say no unless it’s over the internet.

Knowing if a Thai girl is into you is easier if you go out on a first date alone with a thai girl. Once your on the date depending on the type of girl she is she may touch you a lot, either on the hand shoulder or otherwise, if you find your Thai girl touching you when you talk chances are she is into you.

If your on a date with a Thai girl and you want to know if she is into you try simply holding her hand, again it depends on the type of girl she is but if she holds your hand back your in dude.Holding hands in Thailand used to be pretty much taboo 15 years ago but these days it’s even more common actually last night I saw a girl with her thai boyfriend on the back of a motorbike holding her towel. Pretty obvious that she was going to go sleep at his place right! Times are changing.

If you still arn’t sure do what I always do and be honest, ask her straight out if she is into you and wants a relationship (no matter how you want that relationship to be), in most cases you’ve cornered her and you’ll get a straight answer. If the answer is in a very round about way NO then just get it, she’s not that into you!
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About Chris

Chris founded Living Thai and author of the books Learn the The Thai Alphabet and How to make money in Thailand also the Blueprint for Living in Thailand. Chris started this blog with the aim of educating westerners on how to have the best time in Thailand, to make new friends and to vent his frustrations Chris is also fluent in both written and spoken Thai.

18 Responses to How to know if a Thai girl is into you

  1. Matt July 11, 2012 at 12:28 am #

    hey chris, mate you are the guru when it comes to thai chicks. ok, here’s my dilemma. was in phuket recently, bout a month ago and met a cute thai bar girl. she is 24, me 36. yeh i know prob all wrong but have done my nuts ova this chick. we hooked up twice, she was an awesome fuck, don’t know what it is about thai chicks, but they seem to be bred to fuck lol. best root, top chick. anyways, my wife and i have recently split up, not as a result of this, and my feelings for this thai girl are very strong. we were talking to each other almost everyday on the phone since i got back to oz, me footing the phone bill of course. she has been crying on the phone telling me how much she misses me etc, and i miss her too but still am sceptical about it all especially from what i have read and talked to other blokes about. she mentioned about her family being poor, and she has got a 6yr old boy, that ok i got a 5 yr old girl, and she hasn’t been harping on about the poor aspect. i’m going back in 4 months, to have some fun and maybe, prob most definately hook up with her. i just don’t want her to be fucking with my heart, i am still dealing with separation etc, and don’t want this chick messing with my feelings. i know she is a bar chick, apparently she is new to the patong scene, she not at bangla but at a chilled out bar further down the beach. i think she is not lying about being new as she can’t speak good english. she sent me photos, and she now on facebook, and ive seen some photos of her being reasonably close to a tourist. i prob shouldnt get jealous cause it will eat me alive, and she will obviously be meeting lots of men working in the bar. i guess i would like your experienced input on all of this, whether to just let her go and see what happens when i go back, or work at keeping the relationship going. what do ya think? over the last week the phone calls have been minimal, so i dont know if she over me, or i was just caught up in the whole romance of the holiday so to speak. prob didnt help, but i said i cannot support her family if we were to be together, and she actually upset at the fact that i thought she wanted my money and nothing else. she really seems to have feelings for me, i made her cry when i said this, so i’m really fucked up as to what to do. any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. i really dig this chick. thanks mate.

    • Chris July 11, 2012 at 8:49 am #

      new girls to the scene can fall in love with guys this is normal for all kinds of girls but by the time you get back 4 years in the bar is like 4 years in real life! Be realistic mate this girl is pimping herself out do you even know the reasons why? She may have genuine feelings for you but in the end you need to figure out what it is you can actually do in this situation, she is here and you are there, doesn’t sound like you could be here all time time so in the end she will find someone else unless of course you can come here permanently in which case if you can’t you need to try to not let your heart on your sleeves and just keep her there as a really good fling. It’s hard sometimes when you meet a girl and it can’t work out only because of location but that’s just how it is. If you can move to Thailand permanently then it’s a different story and really a different answer to your question.

  2. jdm December 23, 2012 at 2:59 am #

    Hello young fellows, and hello to you Chris, very nice blog you have. Will recomend it to friends.

    My dilemma is:
    I met a thai middle age woman that have high enough income so i do not worry that she will be with me for my money. We have long conversations with her both side ask and answer questions, talk for life etc and we do that for a period. She says several times that she thinks that I’m a very nice guy. I learn form my experince that if woman qualify me as a nice that mean I’m in a friend zone, so no play there. My last hope is that thai woman is more conservative so they do not use more strong words. So is there probability she is into me or I just find a friend? What your opinion?

    Best regard, JD

    • Chris December 28, 2012 at 11:05 am #

      Just be careful, just because she has money or a decent job that you can’t still get fucked over. Not saying anything bad about this woman just saying i’ve seen it happen before, keep your wits about you you’ll be fine.
      My opinion is you have to be much more accertive tell her how you feel then ask how she feels. Be a man, some Thai girls are too shy to let you know physically how they feel about you.

      Chris..

  3. maximus January 24, 2013 at 1:20 pm #

    If you want to get into a serious relationship with a rookie bar girl you have to pull her out of this environment immediately! If you can´t offer her a proper financial situation when you are home and she in Thailand, or take her with you home I don´t think it´s possible to build a good relationship.

    I´m going to find a GF in Thailand, and if I have to support her financially when I´m not there I need to be 100% sure that she don´t screw me for money, time and feelings. Therefore I´m in contact with south-east Asia´s largest investigation company (Zele Investigaton) who use one week to find out everything about her past and situation/behavior when I´m not in Thailand (if she´s married/cheat/how use my money/still work in bar/other boyfriends/how long time being a bar girl, etc,). It cost´s about 500-600 €. And it´s worth avery single euro!

    I mean, if I have a GF home in Norway I have to support her financially too if she don´t work and make her own money, so what is the difference? Girls cost money wherever you are in the world, so why judge the sweet thai girls only? I can´t understand you guys in this matter, really! If you don´t have money to go into a relationship (because she´s not able to make her own bcs of the thai society or job situation wherever in the world) then don´t! You haven´t afford to it! Don´t expect she can give you the financial freedom western girls can. Get an education an get a well payed job!
    Using poor thai girls bcs YOU are poor home too is so disgusting! Then you are not a shit better then those girls who screw westerns! You screw them exactly as them, just in a different way! Get down from your ivory tower, you ain´t better bcs you only have the power bcs you are form the rich part of the world (and you are the poor one there).

  4. ian November 22, 2013 at 2:30 pm #

    hi iv recently been on holiday in pattaya i met a nice girl when i was there and spent 4days with her iv been back home in england over a month now an we speck on the phone 2 or 3 times a day an speck on skype everyday for an hour or so . shes 24 and has 2 children she says she split from the childrens farther cause he treared her badly . shes never asked me for money and she allways says im her only love . im going back to see her in april an she wants to take me to meet her mother farther and children . she recently had an accident on a motor bike and shes in hospital but she hasnt asked or said anythink about money she sent me a photo of her in hospital an spoke to me on skype an showed me her arm in a bandige . can you give me any advise if shes a good girl .

    • Chris November 23, 2013 at 1:30 am #

      You met her in a bar in Pattaya….What do you think common sense says?

    • Buttercup November 23, 2013 at 11:22 am #

      The odds that she is a “good girl” versus she’s going to wreck your life are not worth considering given what’s at stake (your life)

  5. Studentstuff May 20, 2014 at 12:07 pm #

    hey chris, I just recently found this site and think its really cool you reply to comments asking for help.
    So I wana peg on that vibe if its not too much trouble.
    Im a south african indian student in china, and my now ex is thai, from nakhon ratchasima, we’ve both been here for more than 2 years and last year we met and after about 2 months of hanging out we started dating. I have a lot of experience with women, but this is/was my first time with a thai girl. I guess i can leave out the details, but my question is how do i know that she is actually into me. some of her friends tell me she’s still inlove with me, but she insists she doesn’t want a relationship right now (we broke up in november last year). I guess I do really love her, but the thing is she’s extremely shy, incredibly stubborn and unused to showing affection. I got a decent amount of affection out of her while we were dating, but even that was only when we were alone. I don’t think i am farang, and shes never said that to me. Also she has a thing for ‘tomboys’ here,she insists she just likes to hang out with them and nothing close to a real relationship ever happened. Dude im so confused, any sort of response will be greatly appreciated. What is my next best move?

    • Chris May 20, 2014 at 4:04 pm #

      Your next best move? My experience has been when a Thai girl says anything but i love you and want to marry you, then you can safely assume she ain’t that into you. Also any chick that hangs out with tomboys on a regular basis is someone i wouldn’t go near. Bottom line if she doesn’t want a relationship now, then don’t have one. If that’s what you’re looking for then look for someone else.

      • paul October 1, 2014 at 2:45 pm #

        Hi Chris. Can u please expand on your tomboy comment. I have girl and she calls her friends her gang. 2 or 3 tomboys as she calls them (or lesbians?). One keeps telling my girl she is a tomboy….she isn’t but she mentions it like its a good thing. Why are tomboys bad news?

        • Chris October 1, 2014 at 7:09 pm #

          Yeah dude, if I were you I’d tell her to stop hanging with these tomboys or leave and if she doesn’t i’d leave anyway because it’s more than likely they be trying to get her away from you, they cunning little bitches moreso than regular girls. Concider them butch lesbians, they hate men, and if you asked them if they hate men directly of course they will deny it same as a racist would.

  6. INeedAnswers September 4, 2014 at 11:16 pm #

    Hey chris. I’ve met a thai girl here in Aus. The thing is she is going back to thailand and the first time she came here I never told her how I felt. Now she is back again for half a year and I’ve confessed my feelings for her and asked out but I haven’t got a yes and I haven’t got a no. I haven’t tried holding her hand like your article suggested. What do you think I should do? She is studying here and said we could spend time together before she goes back home so should Keep trying or just give up. Courting a girl for nearly a year seems like hard work just to spend a few weeks with her not that I wouldn’t consider flying to thailand to spend some time with her

    • Chris September 5, 2014 at 10:12 am #

      Mate sounds like your in LOVE! lol The fact that she’s in Australia studying suggests to me that she’s on her parents dime and they would be very strict about NOT having a boyfriend which I suspect is your real problem. Is she a virgin waiting for marriage? Cause otherwise 1 year is a long time though I dated a Thai girl for 1 year before I even got a kiss but that was 16 years ago. Really wish I could help you more but it’s hard to know what some anonymous girl is thinking. Good Luck.

      • INeedAnswers September 9, 2014 at 9:51 pm #

        I forgot to mention the part where I work for her sister which is how I met her in the first place if chasing her was a problem surely I wouldn’t still be working there lol. As for her being a virgin idk I haven’t asked her yet. I’ve dated a thai girl before and when comparing the two they are different. The first one I went out with well she rarely talked to me when I first met her from a friend and talked on fb. I had to break the ice lol with this one i can be myself around her. she’s staying in aus for 7months. Thanks mate I might need it.

  7. stu October 13, 2014 at 11:16 am #

    Hi Chris I’ve a wee problem you might help with? I’m in pattaya on holiday and surprise surprise I fall into the trap head first, I have a 20 year old bar girl and she is very lovely of course I have paid her bar fines and her nightly rate 1000 baht for a few nights bought her clothes and she hasn’t asked for anything, however as you say it’s all about the money and there is no doubt she be away with the first man for short time although she tells me no, problem is attachment I like the girl she showed me pictures of her sister and farang boyfriend, any advise???

    • Chris October 13, 2014 at 11:55 am #

      As soon as you pay a bar fine you are entering into a prostitution. You may like her, she may even like you but don’t forget this is all about money. No doubt you’ve liked other girls before as well right? If you found this one you can no doubt find another one. The best thing about prostitutes is there are more out there. I know you think you like her but this is just a vacation, think about the future where she isn’t in it and just have fun for the moment, don’t whatever you do start promising to send money back blah blah blah that’s her ultimate goal. Good luck, and forget love with hookers, the only love there is for money.

  8. stu October 13, 2014 at 1:13 pm #

    As a new comer to the whole experience I find it hard to accept the way of things so I really appreciate all/any advice I would say this trip has been eye opening and hasn’t gone entirely smooth. Naive and stupid spring to mind I’ve read alot of your blogs and they are extremely informative any advice on how to continue and enjoy this trip fully?

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