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How to make yourself attractive to Thai girls

Things aren’t as easy as they used to be; Thai girls are starting to get a little picky! Years ago Thai girls weren’t connected to Western men unless they met them in person. But thanks to dating sites and social media sites like Facebook, Thai girls have the opportunity to talk to 10X more Western men then every before. And it’s hard to compete with “online guys” since they’re only featuring their most flattering pictures from 10 years ago. In many ways the Thai girl is doing herself a disservice by becoming picky because in reality nobody who looks like a movie star is coming here to sweep them off their feet anytime soon. But realistically your appearance needs to be up to par if you want to attract a young and pretty girl. It doesn’t matter if you’re born good looking, but you do have to work with what you have.

Another word to the wise – I am hearing and seeing more and more times when Gogo girls are actually turning down customers with excuses. Some establishments are more lax on this kind of thing than others. But the point is if you’re a sloppy mess you might not be able to get a pretty dancer even if you’re willing to pay top dollar. That’s right, even if you’re willing to pay for it, your attire will impact the quality of the girls you’ll have a shot at. I know this is Thailand and it’s hot outside, I’m not asking you to rock a tux. But for heaven’s sake, don’t you want these girls to find you appealing on some level?

Some guys may be fine in this category while some may only think they’re fine, and others probably realize that they need some help. Inevitably someone will tell me that it’s lame or even gay of me to do a style piece, but if it’s gay to try and attract hotter women, then I guess I’m flaming.

Hair, nails, teeth

Barbers are 80 baht; please get yourself a haircut and take care of any odd neck hair, ear hair, and nose hair that we all have. For facial hair, a clean shave always works, but so does a 5:00 Shadow look. Body hair is a different story for a different day and boy we’ve all had moments of disgust with it; just put some sort of effort into trimming yourself up so that you’re not “King Kong,” which is the actual term I’ve heard Thai ladies use for hairy guys.
Women from all over the world hate when a man’s nails aren’t trimmed down (toes and fingers).

Teeth whitening is very cheap in Thailand; actually so is any type of cosmetic dental work. Smiling is so crucially important with Thai women that your teeth need to be as presentable as possible. Also whiskey is not mouth wash, so bring gum or breath mints with you.


Having a playful accessory is a good idea because it’s like your built in conversation piece. This could be a necklace, a funky bracelet, or crazy sunglasses. I’m not telling you to go overboard; just one accessory is good enough to give a girl something to grab a hold of.


Age is going to Impact what you look best it and what you can get away with. So I’ll give you some general guidelines and you can adapt them to your age. Age appropriate dress code is important.

Polo shirts– I think this is should be the staple item for guys. You want to get mainly solid color polo’s. They’re versatile so you can wear them on a lunch date, and you can wear them to dinner with jeans.

V-necks- We all basically look like crap with a regular over-sized printed t-shirt on. There I said it; it’s sad but true. Change it up just a bit to a nice v-neck though and all of a sudden you’re big pimpin’

Button downs – It’s too hot to wear long sleeve button downs most of the time, but the ones light and breathable ones work and they look great with the sleeves rolled up. Don’t assume that your idea of rolling sleeves up works, YouTube “how to roll up your sleeves” for a tutorial so you don’t look sloppy. I don’t love short sleeve button downs and I think you can do better; the Hawaiian ones or the Tommy Bahamas ones are simply 2000 and late.

Shorts – Stick to solid color blue and tan khaki shorts and make sure they don’t have a ton of pockets.

Jeans - Nothing is more important than a pair of jeans that fits well. A good pair can last you for many years, so be picky. Luckily the Thai guys have the market cornered on “skinny jeans” so you can get a looser fitting style, but we’re not talking Bone Thugs N Harmony video loose, just loose enough so they’re comfortable. They should fit properly cover the very top part of your shoe so socks aren’t visible.

Slacks- There is no place for slacks for men under 40 even in any nightlife scenario, but I’ve seen some older guys flossing with the Clooney look at night and doing well with the ladies. The “Clooney” consists of dress slacks (usually khaki color, sometimes blue), with a thin white button down shirt sleeves rolled up. A dressy polo (the ones with the fancy material) will work too, but tucked in for this look of course.

Shoes – If you’re wearing shoes, like actual shoes, you must match your belt and your shoes up. Also match your socks with your shoes. Sandals aren’t for a date, a night club, or even a Gogo in my opinion. You can pull it off I guess if they’re nice and you’re wearing jeans, but I’d rather go for shoes. Under 40 you can wear tennis shoes with jeans even at night, after all this is Thailand!

Use your judgment and common sense, obviously I’m not telling you to wear dress slacks to lunch and this isn’t a comprehensive guide. However it’s a good starting point and it’s something to read before hitting a day of bargain shopping to get some new threads to spruce up your wardrobe.

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M. Schwartz is an expert in all things Thailand. Having seen and done it all, there is nobody more equipped to teach about a successful ex-pat transition to Thailand. He wrote the cult classic guide book for men in Thailand called, How to Get the Most Bang for Your Buck in Thailand

19 Responses to How to make yourself attractive to Thai girls

  1. PP November 5, 2012 at 8:32 am #

    My attire always makes their eyes light up. I only wear 1000 baht as a hat. “That’ll do nicely.”

  2. J November 5, 2012 at 12:44 pm #

    It’s hard to compete with “online guys” since they’re only featuring their most flattering pictures from 10 years ago…..I could not stop laughing over this….it is so true

  3. Farang ngong nguay November 5, 2012 at 4:25 pm #

    With regards to dress style, I’m 44 so I usually just do the “Clooney” look with a pair of poplin khakis and a white or blue button down dress shirt. For rolling the sleeves, I just neatly flip the cuff over 3 times and the sleeve sits just below the elbow. Kind of like Romney or Obama. The look where it’s rolled above the elbow is too “hipster” for me.

    Most of the time, for shoes, I just wear a pair of low profile Jack Purcells.

    Day to day…khaki/olive shorts and a plain (no print design) t-shirt works just fine for me.

    Most women I know say I look nice and have even told me that they have a word (I can’t remember what it is) for guys that try too hard to impress by the way they dress and it’s not complimentary. It’s more along the lines of being a poseur.

    • ParadiseCity November 5, 2012 at 5:03 pm #

      sounds like you’re way ahead of the game.

  4. american November 5, 2012 at 5:30 pm #

    If I may be so bold in regard to your comment, “Also match your socks with your shoes.”

    This is cringe worthy, the only time this is acceptable is if you all monochromatic such as with a tux with black pants and black shoes. Otherwise the sock color matches the pants NOT the shoes. As you get more casual you could match your socks with your tie or your shirt but thats for more hip and “in the know” fashion kings. Best idea is to stick to the age old idea that the socks are a fabric extention of your pants, not a boot extention of your shoes. references??? check GQ (written about multiple times a year usually) as well as other fashion mags, or any reputable tailor and I don’t mean one on walking street.

    • Chris November 5, 2012 at 5:35 pm #

      I tend to agree with you if you are wearing pants match the pants with the socks, but if you’re wearing shorts it’s the other way around. For example you wouldn’t wear black socks with black shoes if you are wearing any kind of shorts, actually you shouldn’t wear black shoes with shorts ever!

      • ParadiseCity November 5, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

        you have to be aware of both the pant and the shoe. IF you’re wearing a white tennis shoe with jeans, you’re not going to wear blue socks are you? you’re going to wear white socks with white sneakers, so in that case you check the shoes. The guy that you replied to thought i was referring to dress pants, but in Thailand dress pants are a rarity. We’re talking shorts and jeans more than anything else, so with those i’m going to look what kind of shoe or sneaker i’m going to wear when i decide.

        • baconreal November 11, 2012 at 4:52 am #

          I wouldn’t wear White Socks on a night out, End of Story… The mugs that wear black shoes, black socks, warm my soul when I see them, less competition 🙂 Shoes Get ruined really quick here, especially in bkk. Sad but true, the GG and BG are becoming really choosy, which i’ve noticed since 2008, girls in Bkk asking for 4-5,000 baht, SHADDUP! but hey TIT bargains always to be had…..

  5. Lil elliot November 6, 2012 at 7:33 am #

    Nice write up, and so true.
    Kinda reminds me of the infamous big baby Kenny article that required a punter to wear “quality fabrics”

    Keep up the good work!

  6. jefke November 6, 2012 at 2:54 pm #

    If you walk around at the sex-tourist places you can see the most beautiful girls sitting on the lap of poorly dressed ugly guys. So, I’ve a hard time believing looks are important at such places. I think the bargirls are mainly worried about their safety and won’t go out with rude, aggressive or very drunk guys.
    If you want to go out with a girl with a regular job, your look is probably just as important as in your home country (and if it is not, you should probably be worried). Like in every country, I think having a pleasant personality and being a good talker are more important than how you look.

  7. Vast November 6, 2012 at 4:01 pm #

    To be fare the girls are often using their best photo from 5-10 years ago as well!

    • Chris November 6, 2012 at 5:27 pm #

      True, and they all look white and when you meet them…dum!

      • parky November 10, 2012 at 12:41 pm #

        I’m sure you meant to say dumb. But you were dumb and wrote dum. Probably drunk. Thai girls who love $$$ love $$$ a normal girl doesn’t really give a sxxt.

        • David November 10, 2012 at 8:51 pm #

          Sarcasm parky? Dum means black!

  8. John November 11, 2012 at 3:30 am #

    I’m with you Chris. I am older than most but look about 15-20 years younger than my real age and get away with it easily. One of the ways I do this is by dressing with imagination including wearing vibrant colors in the form of V – Neck T Shirts and good quality light colored long sleeve dress shirts (yellow, light blue, light green, lavender etc.) Take a look at a rainbow sometime and tell me if you see grey, brown, or black. I think not! Women are colorful and they enjoy men who can express themselves with “life giving colors.” I see so many men out there who dress like a can of shit….do you really dislike yourself that much? Take a look in a mirror and ask if you would pick yourself up from a bar! J

  9. Milbrath November 18, 2012 at 11:00 am #

    Never had the best looking girl in a bar turn me down and I dress in shorts and a t-shirt. Jeans if it’s chilly. I dress for my own comfort based on the weather.

    The day I’m dressing to impress a whore that I’m going to PAY FOR, is the day I will leave Thailand.

    If you are dressing up to pull some free ass, a non-hooker, then you’re doing the right thing, you need to bring your A-Game and dress accordingly. But if you’re dressing up so you can go give your money to a prostitute, unless you’re just a wreck to begin with, you need your head checked. Whores have sex for money. Period. Any whore who wouldn’t have sex for money because of the type of shirt you are wearing, isn’t going to be a good whore anyway, and would fall into the really bad whore / pillow queen / jepper category.

    That said, some girls just won’t go with older guys. It has nothing to do with what you’re wearing. Sure, if you’re a filthy mess or a slobbering drunk, she may not want to go with you, but the top two reasons they won’t go with you is your age, and because they want to party instead of doing what they are there to do, especially in Pattaya, which usually translates into your girl possibly being a yaabaa fiend or a drunk herself. Or, she wants you to get so drunk that she doesn’t actually have to have sex with you. That is a play from the bar girl book that reaches back to the Vietnam era.

    Bottom line… MONEY and CHARM. I will assume everyone here can afford a Thai bar girl, so work on your charm and you will never be turned down no matter what you’re wearing, so long as she doesn’t have a problem with your age and doesn’t just want to hit the club instead of hitting the sack.

  10. Jon June 1, 2014 at 2:39 pm #

    Know this is an old thread now – but just had to laugh at the conversation about socks… Thai hookers in my experience are SO worried about sock shade….hahaha!!!

  11. Roland September 14, 2016 at 3:49 am #

    Yes an old thread. I met two go go girls that observed that I hade hand made leather shoes (brown). it helped, they told me in the morning. I might add the shirts and trousers fit. I´m 58 so I should not dress like 25 year old. Even bargirls notice.This was in Bangkok.

  12. jack November 15, 2019 at 1:15 am #

    all is true if i go to meet with my first date but only to fuck a bar girls why i need to take care many things ? at the end , iwill pay tons of money. long time 5000, bf 2000, minimum 3 lady drink compulsory at pinup gogo. so all together i expect to spend 10k to take a prostitute and still i need to bear their attitudes ? no thanks. most of them spoiled even so cambodian girls by 2 weeks millioners. old happy days over in thailand. it is not a buyer market anymore. in your home country you can bang more easily and cheaper local girls. no need to spend too much to fuck picky prostitutes.

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