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Guide to getting Thai girls for guys over 50

While I'm still 15 years away from being 50 most of the people I know personally that in Thailand age doesn't mean a thing. A lot of the mail i get from this site comes from guys over 50 so after a few thousand conversations i've got to know the difficulties that guys have shared with me, as well as how they have resolved them. For many they think that it's impossible or that Super Hot Thai girls would never be interested in them so I'm here to expose this myth and to tell you of a few experiences of mates I know who live in Thailand have girlfriends Giks and wives 30+ years their junior.

Age is all but a mindset and the first thing you should stop thinking about is your age and start thinking about hers. If you want a bubbly 20 year old then stop any contact or communication with anyone above the age of 23. Always give yourself a 3 year buffer with age because A Thai girls are never straight with their age in most cases they always add or subtract a year. Girls under 18 are likely to add a few years to their age and in most cases Thai girls will always say they are 21 when they are really 20. Being older when your younger is what most girls want because they don't like younger guys (well the majority anyway).

Contacting Thai girls can be an arduous sometimes expensive and annoying process but so is dating in general. There are millions of single Thai girls out there so if your going to find the one you want you need to show some self restraint. If the 25y/o seems very eager and you keep in contact it might be that time your wasting from getting the prize your looking for. Younger Thai girls are needy and command attention and if for one minute you stop paying her the attention she'll get bored and move to the next one. Limiting your age range helps you focus for better results.

young thai girls

Once you've narrowed your search down to the correct age range you need to go further still. Not all girls are into their dads or grandfathers you need to specifically find the younger Thai girls that are curious about Farang. To be more successful locate and find Thai girls on the Thai dating sites that do not live in Big cities are currently studying in University and have a simple family background. If you live in Chiang Mai look at Chiang Rai if your in Bangkok look near Nakon Pathom if your in Pattaya then look for Sattahip if your in Khon Khaen well you lucky bastard because anywhere in the isaan region is much easier the girls are much more willing.

The list of available girls should be very narrow now and you'll have more time to concentrate on the right girls. Now you have to talk and get to know these girls which is the time consuming part, ask all the regular questions but the following questions are the most important

  • Have you ever had a Farang boyfriend
    If she has had a Farang boyfriend before you know they have done it with a Farang before and if she is talking with you and agrees to meet you know your odds are better.
  • Are you a virgin
    If she claims to be a virgin immediately stop talking to her. Whether it's true or not I guess is beside the point. Virgins at 20y/o are extremely unlikely to give up anything no matter how much of a Casanova you are
  • Have you had sex with a Farang before
    If no one has popped her Farang cherry yet then you are looking at a winner. She has thought about it and wants to try. Thai girls are not stupid and they know you just want to poke her but did you know they want you to poke them too?

Bringing up these questions are extremely important because it plants the idea in her head. It's indirect because you may be asking her if she has had sex with a Farang before but really the question will you have sex with this Farang, asking these questions will let her know what your interested in doing without being too forward with her. University girls are the most curious of Thai girls, they want to try and experience everything, if they are in their 2nd and third year of Uni these are the most curious. They have spent a year or two away from mum and dad and are feeling more independent and starting to get bored, they want to spice things up and now have the guts to do so. This is your perfect target.

Any guy no matter age or looks can hook up with young Thai girls.

You don't have to be super good looking or even have  a six pack, you can be overweight and bald and it's not going to hurt your chances too much. The girls in these areas don't often see good looking Farang men so they are going to settle for what they can find. It's not about the looks as much as it is the experience for them. I have plenty of giks that before 20 they had sex their first time with a Farang with guys in their 60's because they had spent the time to get to know them and when they were ready they were more comfortable with meeting them then the other guys who came and wrote a few messages.

If you can speak Thai you're going to have so much more opportunities than if you don't this is because the younger Thai girls who havn't been with a Farang have pretty poor speaking skills unless they study English and even then I wouldn't count on her being able to say too much. The girl your looking for isn't a city girl so she would probably not be very exposed to Farang. You don't have to be fluent but learning enough to cover you 2 hours will be plenty she can more than likely read your emails so it is only a 2 hour meeting before you hook up that you have to talk. Get enough skills to get you by.

Meeting Thai Girls

If you are 60 and one of the girls with the above requirements agrees to meet with you the hard work is over. But don't F it up now! I get with 95% of the girls I meet up with off the dating sites because I don't go for maybes. Stick only within the requires I've set out and you'll have these odds too. But you can still mess it all up by not doing the right thing when you meet her.

Before you meet make sure your cleaned up, your hair is cut and you are freshly shaved but that depends on what she likes, some girls like facial hair some don't so know your girl first. Secondly wear something appropriate, don't wear shorts with knee high socks or shorts with flip flops. Would you go on a date in the west looking like that I don't think so so why would meet up with some teen in Thailand dressed like that. Wear shoes, always wear shoes, firstly it stops your feet from cracking and in these girls live on a budget of 6-10,000 a month so just by wearing a pair of sneakers costing 2000 baht your elevating yourself in her eyes. You could wear the dumbest clothes but if you have a nice pair of shoes on she'll like it. Don't wear a shirt wear a T-shirt with jeans with a pair of clean shoes.

Now you look OK you meet the chick even if you can't say much to each other just be funny. You Thai girls are easily amused and it doesn't take much a good 20 minute time waster that makes her laugh is farm animal noises. Just ask her what a dog sounds like what a cat sounds like it's funny because the way we think they sound is different to what they think it makes her laugh and makes you look like a funny guy.

If you've done all the right things picked the right girl, wore the right things and made her roll around on the ground in hysterics then if you don't get laid then review the checklist to make sure you've done everything right.

If this guide has helped you or you have some good advice or comment to add please do so below and read our guide to online dating in Thailand.


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About Chris

Chris founded LivingThai.org in 2011 and has received over 3 million visitors. In 2017 he stopped writing new content (although does update the site) and is now focused on writing for his new website SlyNomad.com.

28 Responses to Guide to getting Thai girls for guys over 50

  1. arvi January 12, 2012 at 8:12 pm #

    thank u… i like u’r information.. and now learn thai speak..

  2. quilty17 January 13, 2012 at 7:24 am #

    Some interesting advice here, to focus on girls in smaller towns, where being a foreigner is still some sort of advantage. It is not the case in Bangkok anymore, girls are jaded to foreigners here, moreover it is the “party central” for young foreign guys, so a cute uni girl who is curious to do it with a farang can just walk into a nightclub and go home with some some 25 yr old blonde Swedish guy, she does not need a grampa if there is no money involved. However even with small town girls you better have a lot of patience and time on your hands. Young girls are flaky and 50% of the time they will not even show up for the date. If you are meeting at a local shopping mall is no big deal, but if you are driving for 2 hrs to some small town and then she does not show and turns off her phone you will not be happy.

    Thai men (and Asian men in general) love young girls, but 95% of the time they are paying for it, one way or another. They are realistic enough to know that the only thing they have that a young girl wants is money and things that money can buy. For most older men they would be better off dating 30yr old ladies and visiting a soapie massage when in the mood for a younger girl. If you want to date a 20yr old just to boost your ego you will find it does not pay, you will spend 5 times the effort of your younger male friends, get only a few girls that are flaky and treat you badly (because you are a dirty old man to them) and will probably compare your bedroom performance to some 20yr old stud they had before 😉

    • Chris January 13, 2012 at 7:34 am #

      Great comment! And I totally agree that the younger girls are super flakey. It’s the thrill of the chase and the excitemnt of getting out of town that would get me to spend a few hours travel time. Not something I’d do often but I have done it’s the 50% that show up that make it worthwhile.

    • ken hutton March 14, 2012 at 6:23 am #

      I agree 100% with the above comments from quilty 17.
      He is spot on.

      I have found out through my experiences that
      is what happens.
      And yes, go with some nice lady in her 30s.
      they are far more sensible and more serious.
      Also are much more interesting.(They still look pretty good too)

  3. Denma January 14, 2012 at 9:45 pm #

    Hi Chris

    Why only a tshirt and not a propper shirt?

    I would have thought that your argument about expencive shoes would hold true for the rest of the clothes as well.

    • Chris January 14, 2012 at 9:53 pm #

      Because it’s safe, wearing a t-shirt makes you look more comfortable and relaxed in turn making her relaxed. Besides wear a shirt and it will make you look older to a young girl.

  4. ChiangMaiGuy January 17, 2012 at 1:25 am #

    The most important thing is ‘entertainment’ they like to laugh – I have scored many girls by making them laugh and teasing them. My ‘targets’ have move a little older than just 20 year olds – Thai girls in the 25-35 range can be super sexy and far, far more fun sexually and more ‘grateful’ 😉

  5. ChiangMaiGuy January 17, 2012 at 1:27 am #

    PS by the way if you are using ‘dating sites’ just realize most of us do! so many of these girls go round and round 🙂

    • Chris January 17, 2012 at 6:51 am #

      that is so true!

  6. Bertie January 19, 2012 at 9:10 pm #

    I really love your stories and with the pictures you use, like you would meet 3 girls dressed like that in a school or so. I would take an airplane right this minute and leave to there. And questions about virginity and having had sex with a farang, would that not cost you 2 blue eyes?
    I once was nicely webcam chatting with a girl from Rayong. And then she typed “its not for the money” , but that was meant for someone else she was chatting with as well. And the boy in the background was her “brother”. So always be carefull who you deal with.
    But if i lived in Thailand i would certainly try your recipe 🙂
    So if i go retire there in a few years i go start with gorkai etc.

    • Chris January 19, 2012 at 10:52 pm #

      I live right next to Chiang Mai university, no they don’t dress like that all the time but the times they do it’s total eye candy! Thai people are pretty open about things and as long as you don’t say something bad about someone they are happy to answer those kind of questions. Hope you make it over here mate!

  7. quilty17 January 20, 2012 at 6:10 am #

    Many men on websites like Thailovelinks are just interested in sexchat or webcam sex. Some are also “flashers” who get off on showing their genitals to a surprised girl. Most girls encounter at least a few of these after a while, so when talking about any sexual topics I have to be very careful so she does not think I am one of those guys. Most of the time it is better to avoid sex talk until your can actually touch her and turn her on in person 😉

    • ChiangMaiGuy January 21, 2012 at 2:41 am #

      That is true but they do like some playful ‘suggestive’ chat before meeting (I have found) but not out-and-out ‘in their face’ dirty chat as they find that insulting. If you can make them smile with ‘suggestive’ and ‘cheeky’ chat they are fine and it breaks down the barriers and puts them in the right frame of mind when you meet. But out and out flashing online chat is a no-no and pretty creepy. Once you know them you can push it further online if you wish but a 50 year old flashing his dick to a shy 20 year old Thai doesn’t quite cut it and is unlikely to lead to a fruitful ‘real life’ encounter.

  8. Amore February 6, 2012 at 11:43 pm #

    Is this the image of Thailand in the eyes of the world?

    • ChiangMaiGuy February 7, 2012 at 9:24 am #

      yup

  9. paddy February 25, 2012 at 8:13 pm #

    going to korat in the summer never there before. any tip guys

    thank you paddy

    • ken hutton March 14, 2012 at 6:31 am #

      Hi, yes i have been there.
      The girls are extra lovely in my opinion…
      but the guys there look tough, like Muay Thai boxers
      not like the pretty boys u see in BKK.
      So different up country
      So be careful you dont pick one of their girl friends,
      it may get ugly.
      Also very little English is spoken, its really hard to make yourself understood.
      Anyways thats my impression of Korat.
      Enjoy!

  10. Batam Bob March 19, 2012 at 8:09 am #

    This article has some good advise; I’m 62 and have lived in SE Asia (mostly Singapore/ Indonesia) since 1975. Still single.
    – All my GF’s are aged 17 -23.
    – By the time they they reach their mid 20s, the cruelty of the female biological clock starts running. In view of the world’s overpopulation, I have no interest in starting a family.
    – By their 30s, most girls have too much extraneous baggage for my simple tastes – ex husbands, jealous boyfriends, kids, etc.

    – Chris’s use of the internet to hook up is a new idea for me.
    To meet new girls, I depend mostly on introductions – quite often from former ones who know my tastes.

    Thai women are the most beautiful in Asia. Reading Chris’s blogs make me want to learn the lingo and spend more time there.

    • ChiangMaiGuy March 19, 2012 at 5:19 pm #

      any tips for Indonesia Bob? I’m toying with going there again

    • Learning thai March 7, 2013 at 11:50 am #

      Just reading this old article now and this response make me stop and think…Bob, at the age of 62, most of your girlfriends are aged 17-23? And most of them are introduced by former ex-girlfriends? Wow, what’s the trick? Share your experience 😉

  11. Charles April 12, 2012 at 12:36 am #

    Men, try just being yourself. It works, unless you’re with real “dreg.” Have faith.

  12. DavidMac April 21, 2012 at 8:32 pm #

    Good tips Chris..There is a career in pimping waiting for you when you get tired of doing what you do.
    As for us geezers going after young Thai hotties:Age is nothing but an issue of mind over matter-If u dont mind,it don’t matter.

  13. Rose_thailand May 17, 2012 at 2:12 am #

    it’s awful guide!!

  14. Chris the 2nd May 19, 2012 at 1:03 am #

    Yeah, nice article. I just don’t see any difference in contrast to your other articles. Procedure is still the same. Maybe at 30 you are allowed to wear a shirt? 🙂

  15. tufan June 20, 2012 at 12:44 pm #

    i am disadvantaged.i live in usa.to cut to chase is there any middleman svc to introduce these girls of choice? i just do not have time. this service can help lots of us in states? of course with fees, any comments ?

  16. john mccardell April 27, 2013 at 12:56 pm #

    i chatted with a girl on thailovelinks first in January 2012. we met (in Bangkok) in October 2012. i spent 2 weeks with her. she is only 19 and at university. i am 60. she is very beautiful and we want to be together. she is genuine and i love her. we chat often by phone and on the internet. i know i am very lucky to have met her. i would very much like to move to Thailand when i retire and be with her. yes, there are risks to any internet dating site, but if you are careful and meet them before you start sending money or ‘falling in love’ then the opportunities for love and romance are endless. i am flying out again in October 2013 and intend to stay for longer this time. i would never have met someone as young as she is in the UK. if you meet someone online just be honest with them, but don’t necessarily trust them too much at first. ask lots of questions….ask for pictures in different situations…..and most important (from my point of view) is make sure you see them on camera before making any commitment. there are a lot of people out there just posting photos that are not of the person you may be writing to.

  17. Dannyboy6 February 14, 2015 at 9:46 am #

    Thai Girls Hate the Facial Hair, if you don’t have a lot of hair on top just shave it…

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